Ouch, that is rough. I think I have only been that bad maybe once in my life, but I can guarantee I wasn't wearing a bikini. I know what you mean about people calling. I hate it when I text and they call me back. I think if I wanted to physically talk to you I would have called not texted. I can't really tell you what to do with her. Likely if you are honest it isn't going to land well. She needs to find herself at rock bottom and either keep going down or pick herself back up. I guess though if you don't say anything and something happens to her, would you feel bad? Maybe let that guide you.
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I will feel bad when something bad happens to her but it isn't going to be something like getting into a car crash or anything like that. At least she is very responsible as far as that is concerned and never drives when drinking. I guess there is still some sensibility in there after all. What does end up happening to her on a regular basis though is drunk injury. She will fall or slip or something and then break a bone and one time she was out of the country for an interview for a really good job, got drunk, slipped on a stairway to a subway, the face-planted and gave herself a couple of wonderful shiners and a broken nose.
No matter how you try to spin this at the interview, this is a bad omen and nobody is going to hire someone that comes in looking like that, no matter how well qualified they are. Another time she broke her ankle dancing at a wedding. When I say "dancing" I mean behaving like an idiot. At that point the wedding sort of became about her and that was just awful. i was there. We were moving to get her out of there because she was ruining other people's special day. As far as I know that married couple no longer speaks to her.
That is the rock bottom that she is going to have to hit. I think she is 75% of the way there already.
Wow, that is rough. That is good that she doesn't drive. As she gets older those falls will be harder to recover from. I've seen it far too many times. My buddies dad is going through it right now. It sounds like you are moving in the right direction taking your hands off the situation.
I ran into another mutual friend that I used to see hanging out with her a lot and had a conversation with him. It wasn't trash-talking, I was just inquiring if he has noticed this as well. He basically told me that he wont hang out with her anymore if booze is involved. he regaled me with stories about how she joyfully slurps down half bottles of vodka before noon when they are just prepping to do something like go to a movie or to lunch. I had also noticed that she almost always has sneaky juice bottles in her purse at all times that are 50% booze with soda water and a splash of fruit juice.
He basically echoed what I was thinking about how she simply is no fun to be around and cannot control her drinking. It has to be all or nothing with her and the "all" irritates everyone else. The "nothing" means she is bored, boring, and just wants to go home. It's a pretty tragic thing really because I thought that I had some issues with drinking seeing as how I don't really feel like I can go and do anything with my friends without booze being involved... I can turn it off by going home though and I don't think this girl can do that.
It's tragic, but I think everyone has already cut her off. I don't really want to be the hero either.
That's definitely sad. It sounds like she is on a road to self destruction. I can't imagine this is going to end well at all for her. I guess the good thing is she isn't in the states where she would likely be driving around risking everyone else's lives as well.
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