Good morning Indonesian time, on this very bright morning I tried to write about psicology
WHEN WE WILL LEAVE THEM, DON'T PLAY ALL ROLE
We never know, where our child will be thrown to which part of the earth, then allow him to learn to solve his own problems.
Don't play all the roles, who is the mother, so be the chef, so be the laundryman.
yes father,
yes become a driver,
yes be a plumber,
You are not a member of the SAR team!
Your child is not in danger.
There is no S.O.S signal!
Don't always force to help and improve everything.
👉The child complained that the puzzle toy could not connect to one, "Here ... Dad help!".
👉The bottle cap was a little hard to open, "Here ... Mama only".
👉Shoelaces are difficult to tie, "Here ... Dad tie".
👉Sprinkled a little oil
"It's here, Mom is cooking".
When can his child?
If reinforcements appear without disaster,
What happens when a disaster really comes?
Give children the opportunity to find their own solutions.
Ability to handle stress,
Solve the problem,
and look for solutions,
is a skill / skill that must be possessed.
And this skill must be trained to be able to be skilled, this Skilled will not just show up just with simimabim!
The ability to solve problems and survive in difficulties without giving up can impact for decades to come.
Not only can you make someone graduate from high school,
but also passed the storm test of marriage and life later.
It seems trivial now ...
What's wrong with helping us children?
But if you immediately rush to save him from all difficulties, he will become frail and easily wither.
Pain a little, complain.
Fight a little, ask for a divorce.
A little problem, crazy.
,
If you spend a lot of time, attention, and money on his IQ, then spend the same thing for the AQ.
AQ?
What is that?
ADVERSITY QUOTIENT
According to Paul G. Stoltz,
- AQ is intelligence to face difficulties or obstacles and the ability to survive in various difficulties of life and the challenges experienced. *
Isn't this intelligence more important than IQ, to deal with everyday problems?
The feeling of being able to pass the test is wonderful.
Can solve problems, from simple things to difficult ones, making yourself more confident that asking for help is only done when we are truly unable to do it anymore.
So, allow your child to go through life's difficulties ...
No problem the child has a slight injury,
a little cry,
a little disappointed,
a little late,
and a little rain.
Hold your tongue, hands and heart from giving help.
Teach them to handle frustration.
If you are always the mother of a fairy or guardian angel,
What happens if you don't breathe again tomorrow?
Can your child die.
It's hard not to intervene,
When seeing children themselves are difficult, sick and sad.
Especially being a parent, the first instinct is protecting,
So training AQ is our own test as a parent.
But realize,
life isn't easy,
problems will always be there.
And they must be able to survive.
Passing rain, storms and hardships,
which is sometimes unavoidable.
Good luck to print a strong and independent personal ...._
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