I will feel bad when something bad happens to her but it isn't going to be something like getting into a car crash or anything like that. At least she is very responsible as far as that is concerned and never drives when drinking. I guess there is still some sensibility in there after all. What does end up happening to her on a regular basis though is drunk injury. She will fall or slip or something and then break a bone and one time she was out of the country for an interview for a really good job, got drunk, slipped on a stairway to a subway, the face-planted and gave herself a couple of wonderful shiners and a broken nose.
No matter how you try to spin this at the interview, this is a bad omen and nobody is going to hire someone that comes in looking like that, no matter how well qualified they are. Another time she broke her ankle dancing at a wedding. When I say "dancing" I mean behaving like an idiot. At that point the wedding sort of became about her and that was just awful. i was there. We were moving to get her out of there because she was ruining other people's special day. As far as I know that married couple no longer speaks to her.
That is the rock bottom that she is going to have to hit. I think she is 75% of the way there already.
Wow, that is rough. That is good that she doesn't drive. As she gets older those falls will be harder to recover from. I've seen it far too many times. My buddies dad is going through it right now. It sounds like you are moving in the right direction taking your hands off the situation.