Hello steemians! Welcome to my blog, I’ve got a juicy one for you this time.
Today happens to be a Saturday, and in this part of the world where I live, it is a day for wedding parties (we call it ‘owanbe’ parties). The bride and the bridegroom are always appearing to be at the peak of their happiness, with all smiles.
This made me think about most relationships, not necessarily married couples alone. As it is good to remain positive at all times, it is also good to be wary of what could mar a healthy relationship in order to put things in check.
The common thing that breaks up relationship between two people of opposite sex is infidelity. Infidelity simply means being unfaithful; which is often translated to one or both of them having a sexual affair. Others could be lies, pretense, having exes that one has not gotten over and so on.
The only thing that is often overlooked is the emotional affair. This has wrecked a lot of homes and potential homes; it is the bedrock of evils especially sexual affair in a relationship. And the sad thing is that most people do not know how deadly it is until it has gone deep, goes deep because there is this thin-veiled cover of “we are not having sex”
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Emotion is a strong feeling, while affair which usually means secretive or illicit sexual relationship is a vaguely specified concern. Combining these, it is safe to say that emotional affair is a strong feeling for another person apart from one’s partner without clearly expressing it.
Funny thing is that it happens to those with good intentions, as it creeps in silently. Those you can easily be having emotional affair with are people apart from your spouse you find exciting and enjoy talking to. As long as you start to get so fond of them and you hide it from your spouse, then there is a problem.
There are ways of knowing if you are into it:
- you start to look forward to see or hear from the person, and you turn moody if you do not have the chance to link up with them.
- you share personal issues with the person and you seem to prefer his/her input to your spouse’s.
- you two flirt with each other and it seems you are cool with it
- you keep things you’ve discussed with him/her from your spouse.
- you start to get sexually charged towards the person.
If you have noticed any of the above listed things, the emotional affair has started no matter how much you deny it. It is important to know that it is very possible to be close friends with the opposite sex while in a relationship, the only thing is that your spouse must always come first and should be carried along.
And if you are dating or even married and you notice traces of already been involved in an emotional affair already, there are steps to take to prevent your already built relationship not to hit the rocks.
- Let your significant other know what you are getting attracted to another person and find a way to cut it off together.
- Stop all the personal issues you share with them and concentrate on your spouse.
- Know what attracted you to them in other to be cautious.
- Set your boundaries
- Do not be naïve, know more about an emotional affair and stay guided.
You have to be very intentional and be true to yourself to really stop this emotional affair, it is very deadly.
Your partner deserves better, keep your relationship healthy.
Note: Got some of the tips from a random WhatsApp bc.
Keep steeming and keep building healthy relationships.
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thanks for the tip, keep steeming.
Great!