I think absolutely everyone has fantasized about the ideal of our perfect match. We have been shaping it based on our needs. We create that ideal person, with all those characteristics and tastes similar to ours, and even all that we lack. We envision a magical, romantic comedy movie-like encounter. But, let me explode your bubble, it is good to dream, fantasize, imagine, but the reality is that this type of magic is actually an illusion.
Everyone has sometimes told us the story of how important it is to find your "better half", and that is the problem. We got used to needing someone else, to wait for a third to be happy, to be complete. Well, let me tell you that you have lived cheated all your life, that "half orange" does not exist. Because you and I are complete oranges, who can meet somewhere to form a team that complements each other, helps each other, supports each other, but they do not depend on each other. This absurd idea that we are alone is incomplete, it pushes us to feel bad about ourselves, and it gives us a false ideal that we will only be happy the day we finally meet that ideal person, without allowing us to realize that true happiness depends on ourselves.
Films have done us a lot of damage, to the point of believing that love arises at first sight. You bump into a guy, they talk to each other and instantly fall head over heels in love forever and live happily ever after. Well, in real life it does not work like that, I do believe that there is attraction at first sight, that is, something catches the attention of a person and makes us feel interested in knowing him better. However, this process of knowing the person is what will determine whether or not the infatuation arises.
Love cooks over low heat, when you really begin to know the other person, and you discover all their attributes, all their virtues, and also their defects, because even if you have a perfect prince or princess in your mind, in truth all we have good things and bad things; and for me love is about loving a person despite their shortcomings and between them helping each other to be better people, to grow together, to form projects and to have goals that they can build together. At the end of the day your partner does not end up being your better half, if not your support, your complement.
The problem is that if you always part of the orange stocking trap and you live expect a magical and perfect fairytale love, you will inevitably end up frustrating yourself. It is simply about changing the perspective of things.
