Hello, everyone.
I welcome you to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learners' featured post. Anger is a natural thing for humans; we all get angry once in a while, but how we act and react when angry matters a lot because after anger there is still life to live. Many people have made decisions they regret to this date out of anger; some took certain actions out of anger, and to this date they are paying the price of those actions, and that only leaves them with regret. Over the years I have come to realize that 99% of actions and decisions made out of anger are ones we end up regretting when we calm down.
Anger is one of the things that stand in the way of our progress; many people have missed out on opportunities that could have pushed them to the next level all because they claim to be quick-tempered and get angry easily. Some under the umbrella of claiming to be hot-tempered or quick-tempered even destroy things. I once had a neighbor who, whenever his girlfriend gets angry, first of all looks for something to break; if it is not plates, then it is his electronics or gadgets. Sometimes she even carries a knife and chases him around the compound all because she is hot-tempered, and that did not make any sense to me.
Whether hot-tempered or not, we are all humans, and we all get angry, so why doesn't the boyfriend get angry and do the same? Why does it have to be you who destroys things and hides under the umbrella of "you are hot-tempered"? We all get angry, and the difference between us is that you being hot-tempered means you get angry faster and over little things, while those that are not hot-tempered take time before they are triggered, but then anger is anger whether it happens rapidly or slowly, but it is funny how it is only you that tears the house and apartment apart.
After their fights you hear them apologize and say, "You know that is how I am." That is a big lie; that is her trying to avoid responsibility and accountability. Anyone who, after their actions, tries to make excuses is just trying to avoid accountability and responsibility, and that proves that she knows exactly what she is doing. I don't think anyone should tolerate a human being that has chosen to behave like an animal. I am still trying to understand the level of anger that will cause me to look at a television hanging on the wall, and then I pull it out and hit it on the ground, knowing fully well how much it cost.
We as a society must punish those with tempers like this; after destruction and when calm, they should be asked to buy back everything that was destroyed in the cause of their anger. I think after they replace a destroyed item once or twice they will learn to control their emotions. We as a society should also try to teach emotional control a lot earlier, like in schools and in family homes, and kids who have tendencies like this should be given attention to and made to understand that it is not a good path to follow or stay on. I believe if the issue is detected early and given the attention it needs, the world will be free of people with that type of anger.
Yeah. You said it all. We can't stop ourselves from been angry, but we can stop ourselves from being destructive. This is a great mess
Hot temper definitely regrets their actions when they become calm but the deed has been done.
I used to justify my anger, saying, “That’s just who I am,” until I realized it was a bad thing for me. I thank God for the change in me today.
Anger is very destructive
Your example about the neighbor was honestly scary, carrying knives or destroying things it's a sign of dangerous people. I agree that people need accountability instead of excuses for destructive behavior.
Have a wonderful day.🦋
Anger is a part of us. It's inherent in everyone but the way we use it matters a lot. I have never seen anyone we reacted based on negative anger love without regretting it. There is nothing fruitful that comes out of the outburst of anger..