Sometimes, I wonder if people don't know the damage a lot of things they do can cause in someone else's life, maybe that's why they just do what they want without giving a damn. The other day I was at the store when I overheard a conversation another guy at the store was having with a friend of his. Apparently, he had caught his girlfriend cheating on him, so he ended things with her. But if the whole thing had ended there, then it would had been okay, but it didn't.
Due to the fact that he was cheated on, I heard him telling his friend how he was going to be a casanova from now henceforth. He had told him in details how he doesn't plan on being in any serious relationship anymore, but would rather mess around with girls and never take them seriously in other to avoid getting heart broken for the second time.
You and I could agree that what he's about to do isn't right but then again, he won't be thinking of doing such a thing if someone had not messed him up.
Why am I saying all of this?
Well I had borrowed money to someone I called a friend some weeks ago and he had promised to pay me on a certain date. I usually don't lend people money unless I know you and you're close to me. So I gave him the money but pleaded with him to pay me back on the agreed date because I was saving that money to pay back a loan I had collected from a friend of mine here on Hive to get a new phone when my phone had suddenly gone bad.
He agreed and promised to even bring it before the agreed date. It been a week and some days now, and this friend of mine is no where to be found. He doesn't answer my calls, neither does he come around to hangout like he usually does in the past. I haven't been to his place yet because I've told myself that me going there because of that money would signify the end of our friendship.
The fact that he's ignoring my calls is what pisses me off the most. Why not keep to your end of the bargain, why make me regret ever helping you?
And the worse thing about this whole situation is that I now have to power down just to pay back my own loan. Another sad thing about this whole situation is that whenever someone else comes to ask for a favour from me, I might be a little bit reluctant though help, not because I don't have what you're asking for or I don't want to give, but because someone else had messed it up for everyone else.
unfortunately that's how it is. people are ungrateful. and the nicer a person is, the worse it is.
But it really shouldn't be so.. Its sad.
You're absolutely right. It's important to consider how our actions can affect others, both in terms of their emotions and their finances. We should strive to be responsible and keep our promises, especially when it comes to borrowing and lending money.
Exactly. There's nothing I like more than a man who keeps to his words.
Hello @prayzz
I'm so sorry that you have gotten burned by a "friend". It always sucks ! Early in my adulthood I had a similar experience. So I now have a steadfast rule. I don't let anyone borrow money that I have to have to pay something else or someone else with. In other words, if that person doesn't pay me back, no prob. I just wouldn't give you anymore cash in the future. And it won't tick me off to the point of no longer being your friend. I hope I'm making since...LoL
If and when you get to talk to that guy again, please tell him that if there was no way he could pay you to back, it would have been nice to at least have a heads up. I do hope that you can salvage your relationship. It will be hard at first, but it's really not good to loose a friend over money.
I totally get your point. I normally wouldn't had given him the money if I didn't know him personally and if he's reason of wanting the money wasn't an important one. But I guess we learn everyday.
Yep.. and the important thing is to learn rather than making more of the same mistakes over and over. 😊
It quite bad how people behave without thinking of the next person close to them, humans are times can be very damaging via their character
Yeah, all we do is think of ourselves and not how our actions could affect the next person.. Its bad, really.
Sorry about that
It is so crazy when you are paying for something that you did not even use.
I met a guy sometime ago. We began to get along with each other and he ran away. Lol he used me but a few days ago, I heard him telling one of his female friends that ever since he got heartbroken, he can never fall in love again. He'll just deceive girls like what he did to me.
The problem is that just one person may ruin the entire opportunity that other people may have but what do we do?
That's really sad, hearing what the guy did to you. The truth is that nothing justifies his actions even though someone did him dirty in the past. I hope you're fine now.
That's so bad. I hope you find your "friend" and finally get paid.
I hope so too.
Yay! 🤗
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