Keys To Lasting Love 2 - Respect

I started a short series of keys that can be used to have a lasting love among partners in a relationship and two days ago, I talked on Loyalty as a key to lasting love. You can read the first part Here

I got a few feedbacks in the last one and I'm hoping as time goes on, I'll get more feedback on this series especially with the different topics I'll be talking on. This episode will be on the second key I feel will lead to a lasting love.

So today's talk will be on RESPECT as a key to lasting love

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I'll say respect is a foundation for every love story as it brings the love to a level of happiness between the partners.

Even in other aspects, respects has shown to be very important in gaining love from people because when you show respect to your elderly ones for example, you're bound to feel of love from them or even gain their respect too.

Respect is giving an attitude of consideration or high regard to your partner... A way of showing love also.

How do one show respect to his/her partner? This isn't about being eldest like some men would take this to mean, where they expect only the women to show respect to them while they do whatever they like.

We've heard the saying before "Respect is reciprocal" not only among our elders but also in our relationship with our partners. There are ways to show this respect to keep your love alive.

No, it's not about greeting your partner in a respectful way or giving accolades by bowing down or something when he/she gives you a gift or surprises you... But you could do that too though.

A way to show respect is Caring about your partner's wants and needs

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So many who have been in a relationship for a long time have failed to know what their partner wants anymore, they are too busy trying to get what they want and forget that their partner has wants and needs too... Such relationships lack respect.

A respectful relationship puts each partner's need into account even before speaking or acting. You should learn to ask him/her what he/she really wants if you're not sure but some partners would know without asking and try to make their partner happy by providing what's possible to provide.

We've heard a few people say "My sweetheart knows what I want" or words like "My babe doesn't like such a thing, I know her likes and dislikes"

These little things you show to people tend to make your partner happy to know that he/she has a place in your heart where you even remember the most little things about him/her.

But I must add that only one person in a relationship can't give the respect that would lead to a lasting love, they both have to reciprocate if they want that relationship to work.

So while the man in a relationship tends to buy her a gown he felt she wants, she should also learn to check out what he needs and get it for him... It's doesn't have to be expensive things and not always about buying stuffs.

Another way to show respect is knowing when your partner wants an alone time or is angry about something, know how to help him/her out without making things worse. Not everyone loves to be disturbed in their alone time... Show some respect to him/her.

There are other ways one can show respect to his/her partner but I'll stop here.

So what's your feedback on RESPECT as a key to lasting love?

Thanks for reading!!!

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Respect and commitment are the two fundamental elements of a martial relationship. I will add Trust to the list.

While respecting the most important element is to respect differences. Two people can't be a like 100%. They always have some differences. How we react to differences of our partner is of immense importance in making or ruining the relationship.

Respect means to not shout or mistreating your partner in front of others. Respect means to not let anyone else know about weaknesses or bad habits of your partner.

What a lovely feedback from you dear, I just learnt something from you that "The most important element is to respect differences"

Thanks a lot 😇

You are most welcome, sweetheart

I think you have it spot on, respect is very important.

Another way to show respect is knowing when your partner wants an alone time or is angry about something, know how to help him/her out without making things worse.

But how we can we know what our partner needs? Sometimes they want us to be ignorant because they love us. We still have to respect that? Or just still find a way to know.

I personally am a weird person that sometimes I dont know what I want ,so if my partner respects me too much I get worried. Is he drafting away from me?

Anyway this is just a big context, the word RESPECT! Hopefully we just find a balance

Great post my friend

Yeah, that happens too and that is why it's advised that we find ourselves in a relationship where we can tell our needs and share our problems and not using our the live as an excuse.

Sometimes I too don't know what I need and that is why we should allow our partners do what they can to make us happy while we accept it.

It's a big context indeed and we can always learn more about it to grow our relationship

I know some marriage that almost crashed due to lack of respect.

Respect is really one of the major attribute for a lasting relationship and is doable if only we can remove our "ego".

Exactly! Ego is what's stopping people from showing respect in a relationship.

Your post, it's spot on 🔥

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