It was our anniversary yesterday. In-laws bought us dinner. We went to one of our favorite restaurant in town for celebration. Time flies, we’ve married for 4 years. My in laws have been married for 40years, they toasted and wished us to have at least 44 years more:)
We were asked what surprises we had in the past few years. Marriage is about compromise, level set the expectation, honest, loyalty, open communication etc. In laws told us there was one time that they almost parted separately. But eventually they worked through it, since they knew they are in there for long run…
We went through a lot in the first couple years. It really challenged our relationship, but we held hands and went through all the ordeals together. I came from a family where we didn’t really communicate our feelings. I have the tendency to hold back. One most important thing that I learned from my husband is to always have candid and open dialogue. There were few times when I tried to close up myself and didn’t want to talk. I ended up almost awake for the whole night. It didn’t feel right, and I should have learned the lessons. Having open communication and be honest to each other is very critical in a relationship. We are also in it for long run, just have to plow through and acknowledge the difference of individual person.
We had disagreements and will continue to have them, we believe with love, mutual respect, open communication, etc, we will be able to face whatever life will bring us and hopefully as in law’s best wishes, embracing at least 44 years to come!
昨天是我们结婚周年庆。公公婆婆为晚餐买单。我们到了镇里我们最喜欢的一家餐厅去庆祝。时间过得真快，这是我们4 周年庆。公公婆婆已经结婚40周年了。他们举杯预祝我们至少可以再渡过44 个周年。
公公问我们在过去这段时间内是否有什么意外的发现。好的婚姻需要妥协，有着合理的预期，诚实，忠诚，开诚布公的沟通等。公公婆婆告诉我们他们有次差点就分开了。但是，最后他们一起走出那段低谷，因为他们知道，他们要的是长久的婚姻。
在我们结婚后的头两年，我们其实经历过很多。非常考验我们的关系。但是，最后，我们还是手拉手一起走出困境。我来自一个没有公开表达各自感情的家庭。因为，很多时候我习惯性地想逃避，把事情留在心里。老公叫我的一件最重要的事就是开诚布公地沟通。有几次，我实在不想说，结果，让我都彻夜无法入睡，感觉很不好。因此，也更清醒地认识到沟通的重要性。我们也希望我们的关系可以长久，我们知道各自的不同，也会继续一起执子之手前行。
过去我们也有不认同的时候，而且，相信以后也还会有。但是，我们相信，通过彼此的爱，相互尊重，开诚布公的沟通等，我们将一同笑而面对将来，我们希望真的如公婆吉言，真的可以共同走过至少接下来的44 周年！
好幸福啊！
谢谢。