Chapter 5: Body Shamed & The Final Chapter of This Series

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It has been a while since I wrote the continuation of this personal development. But in short, I am becoming a lot more comfortable with everything and being seen. I am currently doing more public facing jobs other than my job at the boutique consulting.

I also take up a role as English coach, teacher, and a community leader in a metaverse language learning app.

Body shaming does not bother me anymore, it motivates me

One of the things that used to scare me is the way I look and weight. During covid, I gained a lot of weight and since then, I am still struggling to lose it all. I was one of those people who during covid gained weight rather than losing it. For the past 2 years I’ve been losing and regained it all.

I waited for that moment until I was thin enough to be out there. I knew that I like to talk, to share, and being in public. Honestly, I get my energy by being out there and talking to people rather than isolating myself.

Recently, I saw a comment that basically made a remark on how fat I was, but this wasn’t just one person, many others in my new profession also made comments on my weight.

They didn’t know that the version I am now has lost more than 25 pounds since then.

But that's okay. It just means I am still far away from where I should.

Back in the day, I would probably be angry and quit what I am doing and resorted to comforting food. But I didn’t really quit this time. I stick with my intermittent fasting, working out and making a goal to myself to lose more given my job in the future will require me to look presentable.

“You’re working on your weight, you can change that, but you have the skills & you should never doubt that” – My beloved mom

My job requires us to walk miles sometimes due to locations of these infrastructures and even oil tankers that might not be accessible with just any vehicle. At the same time, when you mingle with executives even the B-level, they would expect people like me to have ideal weight and not overweight or even obese.

It’s a tradeoff being outside and not a recluse anymore.

Rather than going back into recluse and quitting because people commented on my weight, I just worked towards myself and changed my appearance. It won’t stop me this time because I want to win at least once in life, to truly win and not give up halfway when I am a lot closer to my dreams just because there’s setbacks that I could solve if I pushed through it.

I can say that I am successfully integrated into society and being normal. I learned that despite my own quirks and such, I can be normal and there is nothing to be afraid of being out there. In fact, many good things happen because I brave myself to do things outside my comfort zone.

So, this is the end of this, and I have achieved my goal, to be comfortable being seen, integrating myself back to society, and being comfortable navigating body shaming and all that has to do with it.

Read more behind all these life's quest.


	𝘊𝘦𝘮𝘺 (𝘰𝘳 𝘔𝘢𝘤) 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝖼𝗋𝖾𝖺𝗍𝗂𝗏𝖾 𝗀𝖾𝗇𝖾𝗋𝖺𝗅𝗂𝗌𝗍 & 𝘤𝘰𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘶𝘳, 𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘮𝘣𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘣𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘰𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘥𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘬. 𝘏𝘦𝘳 𝘣𝘭𝘰𝘨 𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘭𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘭𝘶𝘴𝘵, 𝘤𝘶𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘺, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘨𝘳𝘰𝘸𝘵𝘩. 𝘠𝘰𝘶’𝘭𝘭 𝘰𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘣𝘰𝘰𝘬𝘴, 𝘵𝘦𝘤𝘩𝘯𝘰𝘭𝘰𝘨𝘺, 𝘱𝘰𝘱 𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦, 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘷𝘦𝘭, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘱𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘰𝘱𝘩𝘺; 𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘩𝘦’𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘶𝘱𝘴 𝘥𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘪𝘯 𝘤𝘰𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘦. 𝘚𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘴𝘸𝘪𝘮𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘤𝘰𝘰𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘭𝘰𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘯𝘦𝘸 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦𝘴. 𝘍𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘯 𝘏𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘣 𝘢 𝘤𝘶𝘱 𝘰𝘧 𝘤𝘰𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘢𝘴.

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