Tell it to me, for me to understand. Listen, for you to have an idea of the whole story.
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Not all people will state their worries or problems. Some want to keep it hidden. Not letting people know. Avoid people who will think of them as a nuisance. That's why some people shoulder their own problems. They thought it's better that way. Keep quiet and keep on thinking how they solve it by themselves. If you know someone thinks that way. You should start talking to them first. Ask them and confront them. Maybe they are just shy to tell you what's happening.
There were those people who committed suicides. I don't know the stories behind that. All I know is they were tired of living alone. For them, the world was too heavy to carry it. Some thought that they're not needed. They are not important. But to make sure if that's what people think of them. They ended their lives. They tested people if they are really being loved. Although, it's too late for them. They can't see anymore the tears will shed. The sound of agony from people who love them. They are gone and they won't return. Life has been taken to, there's no chance of coming back.
We don't want this to happen. We should stop this from happening if we can. But how can we be able to figure it out? We have no idea what's happening. We can't read their minds and we can't tell what they're thinking. Although we can observe what's happening by the use of our eyes. That's the time our instincts will provide us with ideas of what's going on. Why is that person always being alone? Why does that person choose to silent himself? The questions now will start playing in our minds. When it comes you need to do actions as a concerned friend.
The first thing to do is to communicate. Don't dive into a fire without being ready. Ask a friend to have some friendly talk. Spend time with them and let them be comfortable. We should not do a shortcut or else nothing will happen. Ask questions like, "how are you, how's work, how's your pet?" Anything that can divert the emotions that make that friend will start talking comfortably. You need to be patient. You need to be a good listener. You need to be someone that every friend needs. You should understand the situation and that's why you're doing it.
You should not listen all the time. It's better if you can share something. The conversation will be sweeter when both parties are sharing. But don't forget that the main purpose of that conversation. To let that friend be comfortable and open up what's worrying him or troubling him. Find words that will be related before opening up. I mean, we want to catch that friend to open up to us. You will be questioning him despite him talking about different things. It's just a bait to proceed into our main purpose. We want that friend to tell us what's going on to him.
When you caught that friend. It's time to segway the conversation. You got him and if you'll start asking him. There's no way he will not tell you. He feels comfortable to you and he trusts you already. That trust will make him brave to say to you what's happening. That comfortable feeling will make him sure that it's okay to tell you. If that friend will start talking. You can feel relax because he will not do anything stupid. His heart will feel a bit lighter. The burden he's carrying is not that heavy. He expressed it and we know that expressing will feel someone relieved. That's why it's important to have communication with other people.
Thank you for reading
d' dreamboy,
@mrnightmare89
It's so important to open up our hearts to others. I think particularly men are taught to keep quiet and bear pain - but this makes them vulnerable. I can't even imagine how painful it must be to want to give up on life rather than bear the pain. an important post, @mrnightmare89.
Sorry I took so long to get to this - using the tag #naturalmedicine alongside #mentalhealthawareness may help me get to it faster.
thank you so much for noticing it.
Yea, it's important to let others know about how we are feeling. It will feel a bit lighter in our hearts.