A relationship takes caution and extra care. Many people are with various views based on years of experiences and their exposure. Each partner wants to stake their claims and be in control of things. Sometimes this tussle for relevance and recognition cause a lot of issues.
Seek balance is everything. You have to balance your emotions, you have to balance your life and your life involves those things that are so dear to you. You are responsible for your life. Balance every area of your life.
When you have children, you can’t love your children too much that you ignore your wife or your husband. Little cracks can sink a strong relationship. Those cracks might not be too visible, but it determines a whole lot, as it brings about a disconnect, and once that happens, that relationship is already nose-diving.
This brings me to communication. Care about what your partner has to say. Never overlook even the tiniest of things like a text, a missed call and the information passed must not be lost too. Show that you care and don't hide under the guise of 'I have been busy'. We all know that no matter how busy we are, we can make time for what is truly important. That tiny bit of time matters even if it isn't much.
Don't try to excuse your way out of it but be intentional to balance things. There is no one without worries or some things that trouble us. We all find a way to deal with it in a more matured way.
Take care of the little stuff, be sensitive, be considerate, be loving, be understanding, be gentle. A relationship is not only about you, so don’t be selfish. Think about the other person too, and it will help your choices better. Take decisions together, it helps and gives you stuffs to talk about and it strengthens the bond.
A relationship takes caution, do all you can with the other person in mind. There is a thin line between love and hate. Be considerate. Love can die if you don’t water it continuously.
Don't base your decisions on the advice of those who don't have to deal with the results. Who are you trying to impress? The society that has changing standards based on how they feel? Your parents, who won't live forever and you have to live and deal with their unnecessary effect in the long run? Your friends, who would never tell you the deeper troubles they are dealing with as well? Who paints the picture-perfect of a fake reality?
This is your life and no one would teach you how to live it. I can advise you, even point you in the direction you would go but it is your choice to walk the length of it. When people give you advice, weigh it in and make your choice.
A relationship is more technical. It is not like buying cloth in a mall and after you feel it wasn't a right fit, you can return it. The same society you are trying to impress would still be the same one that would be counting your breakups for you if you don't take caution before delving into marriage or any kind of relationship.
Thank you for your time.
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So much truth, at the same time so hard to keep steady. It’s easy to forget along the way why you’ve decided to share your time with another. Do you personally do some sort of ritual to keep clarity on that?
True, life happens. There are things that would always be beyond our control but remembering why we started in the first place, helps.
I agree with you, balance is essential to every relationship as well as Communication and the freedom of been ourselves without pretending or trying to please the other
Love this. Be yourself. Showing consideration would make so many relationship drams to be reduced to the bearest minimum.