How do you forgive someone who hurt you so much.

in Ladies of Hive2 years ago

Forgiveness is a strong key to long life and life success, but as easy as it seems to say and write, it really isn’t easy to accomplish, especially after been hurt by someone you really hold in high esteem and who is close to your heart.

The very first reason why you need to forgive someone regardless of how hurt you feel is because of your own sanity and for your own peace. Remember that, the fact that you hold grudges towards someone does not mean, they wouldn’t do well, having to constantly watch someone who you are hurt by succeeding, would create some form of hole in your heart. Regardless of how clean your heart is, living with a a deep grudge in your heart would begin to build some type of hatred towards your fellow human and in the long run, deprive you of your own sanity.

Let’s talk about important steps that would help you forgive someone who has hurt you so bad.


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1. Speak to the person that hurt you.

The funny thing about the person you are holding grudges with is, the person might not even know he/she has wronged you. Call the person and have a deep conversation on how much their actions hurt you, they may apologize and that may just be the end of the matter.

What if they fail to apologize?

It’s alright, speaking to them about their actions that hurt you screams maturity on your part, their failure to apologize is left to them to battle with.

Choose to settle with your own conscience on the issue and simply move on without them.

2. Choose to move on without them.

When you are closely attached with someone, their actions would hurt you so bad that you feel you cannot exist without them, but that is a very wrong mentality, make peace with your own self and move on because with or without them, you are still the pilot of your own life.

3. Constantly grow yourself.

The pride about growing yourself is that, you will be able to focus more on yourself and eventually, you become your own pride, forgiving others would simply come as a side attraction for you.

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forgiveness is a process that is lived in stages and sometimes it is difficult to achieve Thanks for sharing

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We must forgive one another for exactly the reason you stated! We are to forgive one another and move forward. If that person chooses not to, then it's on them. We tend to be our own worst enemies, so we also need to learn to forgive ourselves. Our peace of mind depends on forgiveness. Thank you for this simple, but complicated reminder. Take care! !LADY

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Thank you so much, I am glad you liked it.

Hello @bimbo45

Smart words "Regardless of how clean your heart is, living with a deep grudge in your heart would start to generate some kind of hatred towards your fellow man", I totally agree nothing is worth keeping hatred, as we fill ourselves with negative energies that will bring us trouble.

Best regards, be well.

Thanks friend, keeping grudges will only turn us into bitter humans.

Like you said, forgiveness is easier said than done. But when we realize we are hurting ourselves in the process of holding on to grudges or ill feelings, it will propel us to forgive and move on.

Thank you for sharing :)

Thanks so much for reading @ifarmgirl

Pleasure is mine :) Cheers to you today