Career or partner? Such things are always a question for women in their adulthood. Did you experience it? That is also a long thought at the moment. I'm 30 years old. I started thinking about my partner. On the other hand, I started to have doubts about certain things.
In Indonesia, there are several cultures that cannot be avoided. Suppose the wife has to go with her husband. In the end, the wife had to give up the career she had built. So did my mother, when she married my father. My mother had to leave her career and become a housewife. My mother took care of me and my two other siblings.
Today, I have built my career. I began to fear marriage, because I had to face the "partner or career" question. Another thing, some of my closest male friends who are currently close to me, are people who are outside Jakarta. Meanwhile, I am building a career in Jakarta.
Should I leave my career? In a long time, I have learned a lot about media. I'm starting to like today's work. I also really love my director. There are high expectations from my director for the new staff who are mostly young people. Director I hope that young people can carry on their thoughts and hopes.
I'm starting to have a dilemma with this. Do I marry him, who currently lives in Surabaya. Should I give up my career and live in Surabaya? But so far I haven't had any important future discussions with my friend. I was quite scared and didn't find the right time for this conversation.
But I remembered something important from my director. If women are not in the "career or partner" options. Women should look for partners who support career and future choices. I started to think about it, my director said. But I also can't find the right time to talk to my friends. I hope this option doesn't last long. There is a resolution I can choose in the future.
Nurdiani Latifah
My name is Nurdiani Latifah. I currently live in Jakarta – Indonesia, after 25 years I live in Bandung. I am a media staff at an NGO in Indonesia. I have worked in this institution for almost 2 years on issues of women and peace. I had been a journalist in Bandung for 3 years.
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I can relate with that career or love. We women always ended up giving up our carreer for the sake of love or building our family. Not only that but also leaving our comfort zone. Quite a hard decision.
I always thought, why are women always faced with two choices that are always difficult. Actually, I want to walk between the two. don't choose one.
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I hope you won't need to choose between the two. I wish you the best in finding one who will make you keep both :)
I think so too. I still remember how my mother ended her career. then take care of the kids. but, when my father died, my mother could not do much.
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That's the challenge when we permanently leave work or career, at least we should have something to do on the sideline and not completely reliant on the husband :) You're welcome !LADY :)
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You have made me think about it and I think they should not be mutually exclusive, you can have a career and a partner. I live in Venezuela on the other side of the world, but a year ago I had the opportunity to meet a woman from Indonesia, who is married and has a career (her position is leadership in her company), she is the mother of 4 children and is very happy. So yes, yes you can have both.
thanks for sharing this story. I also want to choose both. without having to be sacrificed.
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