I won’t lie, I’m not someone who takes derogatory remarks lightly.
I wish I were one of those people who could laugh things off, brush it aside, and carry on like it didn’t matter. But I’m not. Words sit with me and they hover in my head, echoing longer than I would like to admit.
So if I were at a party and I heard someone saying negative things about me, my first reaction wouldn’t be calm or detached, it would be a mix of hurt and disbelief. Because there’s something deeply uncomfortable about realizing that you are the topic of conversation in a space where you’re supposed to feel a little at ease.
But I’ve learned something about moments like that and it’s that not every reaction deserves to be dramatic. If I’m in the right headspace, I would choose composure. I wouldn’t create a scene or give them the satisfaction of seeing me unravel. Instead, I would just observe and take note of not just of the words, but of the intention behind them. Then, I suppose, I would make a decision.
Actually, some people are not worth the energy of confrontation and some conversations are not worth entering. In those cases, my silence would not be as a result of some sort of weakness but it would be me choosing distance and giving them a withdrawal of access. Because once I see that side of someone, I don’t unsee it.
But if it crosses a certain line, I mean if it feels intentional, excessively malicious, or disrespectful in a way that cannot be ignored, I would address it directly, and without lowering myself. I would make it clear that I heard them and that I will not be disrespected. Because there’s a difference between being unbothered and being unheard. And I refuse to be the latter.
At the end of the day, how I respond would depend on the situation and my mood but one thing remains constant and that is the fact that I will protect my peace, but I will also protect my dignity. Sometimes, that means walking away, other times, it means standing still and letting someone know, firmly, that I am not the person to speak about carelessly.
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This!!! But yeah, if its too much, better to say your piece too on their face -but with grace. I would do the same if my head and mouth get along well but they're not. Lol. My head knows what to say but my mouth is the betrayer. But anyways, protecting our peace of mind is what's matter. If we can avoid, then avoid, but if its below the belt, proceed with the slap... Kidding ƪ(‾.‾“)┐ or not. Lolol
Haha. I can relate to this. I like the proceed with the slap option if it gets to that stage. That's why I stated that it depends on my mood😂. All in all, protecting our peace is priority. Thanks for stopping by. I enjoyed reading your comment 🥰
It is normal to feel hurt when other people speak of you negatively, more so when those statements are untrue. Observing first and not reacting impulsively is a good thing. Sometimes, walking away or ignoring them is the best thing to do, not out of weakness, but to protect our peace and sanity.
You've said it all and I agree with you 💯. Thank you so much for stopping by
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I truly agreed with you on protecting our peace of mind on issues of this kinds. And it must not even get to that stage of physical fight. Just a good sounds of verbal lashing should do the work.