Throughout our existence, we wage a relentless pursuit in the name of happiness, freedom and rights, in some cases inspired by our deepest desires while in others it is the interests created by our own inspiration. We have come to invest our time and energy in search of that which will make us feel fulfilled, fulfilled and with a goal to gain as long as life will take us. But being one or more of these interests, there is a common path that many of us have to follow.
It is that eternal search for that person who can give us the greatest and greatest feeling as love is, one that being so unique and special seems to be easy to find, but the truth is that it is increasingly difficult to find it and follow its trail. Are we running after an unreality? Or maybe this is just a topic that entertains us in time for us to spend our lives? Probably no one has ever talked to us about love and taught us to be good explorers since we were little, but the truth is that this has never separated us from the innate nature of searching in someone else, that complement we need to find happiness, according to our criteria.
According to our criteria? Well, yes, and in spite of looking for the same path, there are many ways in which we assume this journey, one that can be sudden or surprising, sometimes with long distances or with little path to walk. When does our interesting search begin? Much earlier than we might think, because when it comes to thinking about that ideal person we automatically draw a map inside us, one to which we have placed the route, the landscapes and the desired goal. Normally we never imagine ourselves in another point of the road that is not the goal and it is always a beautiful and illuminated walk. Why then it never happens as we imagine it?
Mostly everything revolves in our imagination, so the more dreamers we are the more likely we are to wake up before the true reality, which shocks us head on and teaches us in a rigid but sincere way. It is as if we strive to draw a landscape and forget about rain or drought, dry leaves or fog, and then with the colors of imagination we make everything perfect. Result? A big mistake that will lead us to many stumbling blocks in our life. And when it comes to finding that someone who complements us and fills us with happiness, seeking perfection can lead us away from reason.
Let's think about the following: when someone talks about the kind of person with whom they want to share their life, usually everything revolves around feelings, qualities, skills and physical traits in a measure of demand, but until today I have never heard someone say "I hope that person snores at night, or makes mistakes from time to time to be able to correct it" . With this, the point at issue is that when we seek someone's sympathy, we expose ourselves to the mistake of putting our high expectations before the natural essence of people. It's not about being perfectionists and it's not about being negative people, it's about visualizing the same landscape in rainy and sunny times.
On the other hand, the idea of "and they were happy ever after" seems to have given us the wrong message of what it is like to find love in a person. It's like saying "If it's not perfect, it's not true love", and therefore we miss the target of our destiny. Of course, it is not about admitting and accepting the hurts and pains that someone may cause us, but it is about knowing that "if that person really esteems you, loves you, appreciates you and loves you, even in the midst of imperfections he/she will know how to value you in a special way".
However, talking about the search for an ideal person is not only about looking at the horizon but also about looking at ourselves.
Thinking about this might raise questions like: Am I being the kind of person I want to find for myself? Am I trying to be my best self in order to give the most to someone else? This makes me think of that man who every morning would sit in front of his house and say: Oh, when will the sunlight come to illuminate my life in this beautiful house? And then time went by and nothing happened, until one day he decided to walk to the country, and when he looked at the place where his house was, it turned out that he saw absolutely nothing because everything was in his imagination. What is the point? Sometimes, because of so much longing and waiting for our ideal person, we forget to be that person for someone else.
After all that has been said, the question arises: Is it worth it to look for our ideal person? Of course it is! Because there is no greater joy and satisfaction than the one that someone else can give us to live and share many things during our existence. Sometimes it is not an impossible road to walk but we ourselves stumble in our eagerness. However, don't give up! because perseverance and perseverance are well worth it. And for those of you who already have that ideal person by your side, cherish him or her every day with the happiness that true love produces.
