RE: Whine of the Inexperienced

But what this means is that the

Curiousity is consuming me alive now XD

women are having children later in life

I want to say there seems to be a 50/50 on these decisions but it's not that even, and I lose track of which one I think is dominant between conversations XD but I have known people who are glad they had their kids older as they were a lot more stable in their lives and emotional development and felt much more capable of dealing with the nonsense that comes with children, they've said that if they'd done it in their 20s they would likely be the type of parents they don't want to be (screaming a lot instead of dealing with things calmly etc) which they put down to just life experience in general.

Then there are the other ones who tiredly say they don't regret having kids in the slightest but regret not starting earlier (in some cases it was just a logistics thing like didn't meet someone they'd want to have kids with til their 30s etc) as apparently trying to keep up with a toddler/young child or multiple thereof in your 40s is hard.

I have to say I like the tiny circles I move in more and more as most of the kids are sensible (at least in regards to how things actually function even though there are a small handful of them who seem to be extremely entitled and know-it-all).

Before you whine - are you experienced enough?

Everything I think is 100% correct because I've done all the research and considered all the options (yes every single one of them with every variable that could possibly exist at any stage) and anyone who disagrees with me is toxic and needs to be cut out of my life forever XD

Curiousity is consuming me alive now XD

Yeah - just edited because after a sleep, I have no idea where it was going either. You know when you are thinking one thing and then you are about to say something profound like ... squirrel!

but I have known people who are glad they had their kids older as they were a lot more stable in their lives and emotional development and felt much more capable of dealing with the nonsense that comes with children

but maybe having children younger teaches things that add to what they need a bit later in life, when they have teenagers?

as apparently trying to keep up with a toddler/young child or multiple thereof in your 40s is hard.

Yep. That is me. I would have wanted kids in my twenties, but it wasn't to be. But having one is better than none in my opinion, even if I am old and crotchety.

and anyone who disagrees with me is toxic and needs to be cut out of my life forever XD

Absolutely! And any disagreement, no matter how miniscule, is cause to cut that toxic arsehole out completely.