Human were advancing towards innovative world with many new technology coming up every days but as we say so, humans are also getting more into ego problem that is hampering the society in many ways. An ego problem is an unhealthy, rigid, or excessive sense of self-importance that distorts reality, leading to arrogance, entitlement, or insecurity. I comes across many individuals who does not bother about their changed behavior. But proud of themselves of what they do under the influence of ego. Ego is something which develops over a course of time. It manifests when one is constantly defensive, unable to accept criticism, or prioritizes being right over fostering relationships. There are no handbook to make aware of their egoistic behavior but have pointed out certain points that may help to identify the ego problem within.
There is a guy whom I met few days ago. He is the elder brother of a friend who usually goes on walk with me. I always heard some bad words for his elder brother. My fri3nd always talk about his deed and curse their brother for all the misdeed. I also develop a wrong impression for them. But on meeting his elder brother, I am surprised to find him quite opposite. Rather than bad mouthing his younger brother (my friend) he did praised about him. I found him quite down to earth personality. He appears genuine and a wonderful man to me. What I amazes me his attitude towards his younger brother. While the elder brother riding on his ego of being head of local panchayat, always utter bad words. When I confronted him , he was in complete denial mode.
Ego often stems from an inflated sense of superiority. A healthy ego is necessary for confidence. A balanced ego helps us feel grounded and confident. On the hand, an over inflated ego can lead to arrogance and self centered behavior. An excessive ego can lead to being overly self-critical or reactive. It often manifests as arrogance, extreme selfishness, or a need for constant validation. I think, my friend is one such individual, who is on excessive ride. After noticing him for a quite long time now, I figured out certain points which can help in determining ego problem in an individuals.
An egoistic person never likes to be interrupted. They don't listen to understand, only to speak.
They always hate in being called wrong. Their self worth depends upon being always right.
They constantly brag themselves. They talk about their deeds and achievement. If they were truly confident, they would not need to prove it.
They are very possessive and take everything personally. Even a neutral comments or poke make them disturb. It feel like attacks to them.
An egoistic person is never ready to apologize. Saying sorry feels like surrendering that must always win.
The ego acts as a psychological "gatekeeper" that organizes thoughts, manages self esteem, protects against insecurity, and helps individuals define their role in society. Ego is harmful because, it hinders personal growth by creating a "fixed mindset," stifling collaboration, and causing poor decision-making based on pride rather than logic. Finding my fri3nd in such mode is painful, but making him understand is a tough job. Ever since I notices him, I started maintaining a distance from him. Always make them feel superior and remain underdogs in front of them is the best way to deal with "egomaniacs".
In good faith - Peace!!
