Speaking with a client today, I got some interesting insight into the lives of teens through some stories about her kids. It started with how her 17-year old is going to a party tonight, which she is happy about because he spends most of his time on a screen in his room, and very little time with anyone in real life. And the second was about her daughter who had spent a week on a confirmation camp with a girl from her school where they swapped snapchat, but it was only after 20 days of snapchatting that she finally got up the nerve to speak to her again in real life.
So many red flags for the future.
The client is in workplace health and safety and we were later talking about the conditions needed for better mental health, and she put the number one thing as a sense of security and being able to speak openly. Yet in my opinion, the problem a lot of at least the future workers are going to have, is that while they might want certain things and even feel comfortable speaking about them, they won't have had much experience dealing with people directly and any kind of uncertainty or criticism makes them anxious. This makes planning that kind of environment impossible. It is impossible to make everyone feel safe all of the time without putting them in solitary confinement, with white padded walls.
Perhaps where they should spend some time anyway.
People have grown up in a lot of certainty recently, where I mentioned for instance that both of her children have never lived without google support. When they don't know, they google an answer, without even having the experience to know if the answer is valid or not. But, because it is there at the top of the page, they take it as truth, and believe that they know. This means that they have never had to deal with the sense of "not knowing" because they know they can have an answer quickly. But as I have stated many, many times,
Knowing is not being able to do.
Read a book on meditation and then stop and clear your mind. Read another on surfing and then paddle out into a Hawaiian swell. Read one on singing technique, and then stand up on stage in front of friends, family and strangers, then belt out an Adele song.
Are you a pro?
What I find concerning, is that a lot of young people are not being socialised in a way where they learn interpersonal skill, nor are they learning how people behave in real life. They are surrounded by characterisations of reality that do not come close to accurately portraying reality, nor do they offer anywhere near the richness that reality offers. But because it feels like reality in their experience, they believe they know.
And then because they are unable to deal with discomfort, it also means that they are unable to handle the various negotiations of real-world interactions and every time they feel uncomfortable or get upset, it is the fault of the other person. Yet, because they haven't learned how to read or interact with people, nor have they learned how to compromise as they have always got what they want through digital choice, they are are always going to feel discomfort with others, and always feeling conflict. And because they have been conditioned to avoid discomfort by walking away, they can never commit.
For instance, my client said that if her son was having conflicts at work, he would just never go back there, but he would blame the workplace. He would walk away from a job, because he wouldn't want to deal with the discomfort of improving the situation. And I asked, so what does that mean for his future relationships? Which made her think. In a world where there is 1000 people waiting on one of the many dating apps, would he deal with relationship conflict, or walk away?
Walk away.
And the many people who walk away always have their excuses to put the blame on others, and justifying themselves through a narrative that they deserve someone "better" than the last. That might be true, it might not, but the thing is, there is no perfect person so all relationships have some level of compromise. But if people aren't able to compromise, nor are they able to deal with conflict, they are constantly going to be walking away from people, feeling like they are the ones that are hard done.
There are no good men.
What a load of bullshit. There are no perfect men. Nor are there any perfect women. Even if looking at a purely looks only factor, there is no such thing as perfection in humans. Which is why people are turning to AI bots to be their perfect partner, the one who will submit to and say whatever one wants to hear from them. It isn't a discussion, it is a prompted monologue. And the person gets more of what they want, and less of what they need. They become softer, more prone to disruption and discomfort, more reliant on an environment that is safe and predictable. They become less able to deal with uncertainty, with a growing sense of entitlement that they deserve to get exactly what they want, without variation.
And they believe themselves to be perfect.
But when they look in the mirror...
At some point, it is going to be interesting when AI gets to the level that no matter what kind of prompts the user gives it, the AI will reject them. A person will design their perfect partner, only to have that perfect partner say, "What makes you think I would want someone like you?" And the AI would be right, because why would this well-above average character, want to spend their time with a deeply flawed, narcissistic, tyrant who demands to have their desires fulfilled and full compliance from their partner?
Their AI partner, is far too good for them.
The AI would never swipe right, unless looking to slum it.
The irony is, that a lot of people are avoiding relationships because they bring out their insecurities about people and of themselves. Yet they are building perfect partners that are far better looking, far smarter, and much more emotionally controlled, highlighting just how inferior a human is.
I am sure it is really going to help with mental health.
Taraz
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I don't know about speaking openly. Learning to keep my mouth shut was a major life skill 😁
It is a one of the many skills I need daily, but lessons I have failed to learn. :)
I look predominantly through the lens of my kids but it seems that they are being told that their perspective and feelings trump (let’s not let that asshat take that word from us) any logic or truth. I sure as hell don’t tell them that so who did? The basic truth is that their brains are not fully developed til they are half way through their 20s at least so how the hell could they have everything figured out. They don’t and can’t stand anyone delivering their contradicting perspective or truth because “that’s not true” from their perspective which is all that counts. Bah!
Anyhow, the other concerning thing about ai, in its current form, is that it is feeding on garbage and being taken as truth. Actually using it regularly for work and creative things, I test it, get bad stats, question it, then get a response like “good catch! Actually it appears that I was wrong and…”. So was it wrong or is it now wrong because I called it on bad results? Is it pandering so I use it more and is the reconsideration now wrong?
Concerned about how ai is being accepted as gospel, our brains don’t have to wonder anymore, and how ai is being substituted in for more convenient relationships or professional advice!
I think his original name was Drumpf :D
It annoys me that the word has been turned.
But to know it was wrong, means knowing enough. What about all the people who queried similar and didn't realise? Will the AI move to the right answer, or the most commonly accepted answer?
Today's children are so immersed in social media platforms, starting from Google, that they can find any answer online. However, the scope of knowledge can be further increased by learning from books. Moreover, many problems can be solved through socialization if they are engaged with people in real life. But unfortunately, the current young generation believes the information of online platforms, starting from Google, to social media platforms. However, they do not have any headache about how true they are, rather they consider them perfect. Due to which their scope of knowledge remains limited and they are basically isolated from society.
The thing is, answers are easy to find. The problem is, skills are hard to build. Navy these days confuse having answers with having skills. Two very different things.
Yeah, it's getting worse and worse. My introversion was more of a self imposed thing, but now it is becoming a bit of the norm and before long you end up with just a whole lot of nothing happening.
And it can feel so comfortable and normal - until at some point we wake up and realise we have fooled ourselves.
In today's world, young people have access to so much information; however, I think they might be overlooking important life skills that they can only learn through real life experiences and interacting with others.
I was talking to another client today who is in manufacturing, and they can't get enough people to work in the factory - because no kids want to learn how to weld, despite the good money and conditions.
At times I think that I would like to have a girlfriend. But I am also scared that she could mess my life up either with divorce or some false charges. I still try asking some girls out but I do that rarely. Perhaps too rarely to achieve any success. It is weird...I don't like spending time with most people but there are also moments when I fear living alone till I will die alone.
This is part of the conversation I had today with the client. There are going to be lots of lonely people. There already are.
False charges? What kind of women are you dating? :D
I have never been on a date. But Imagine that Amber Heard also seemed quite normal to Johnny Depp at some point...😛
When I was young, I heard these words: a person who is good at friendship will also be good at family life. This is often true. I would wish for my son a positive and friendly wife.
Do you think he is the kind of person who will attract a positive and friendly wife? Would she want him? This is not a judgement, but often we think about what we want, not what wants us.
People don't choose their partners that way. A lot of random events and the chemistry of human bodies come into play. I can only wish my son faith in luck :)
Many children today don't wanna get experience from the outside world, they just Google everything.
Guessing answers online doesn’t really prepare anyone for yelling at a coworker or surviving a bad date. Reality is and will always be an entirely different ballgame
Kind of like in that movie: Her.
I don't think that is realistic
But my son is now getting girlfriends only online in the game he is playing... which is new level, beyond online dating apps...
Thanks.
Hey @tarazkp would you mind elaborating why you chose to down vote this? This is not a vote buying service, so I'm wondering what I did wrong to throw you off.
Not speaking for @tarazkp but we have enough "random" upvotes on hive, don't you think?
The word booster has a bad reputation on here after the bid bot era as well.
I didn't know that, I simply wanted to make something that generates a little bit of buy pressure for HIVE. Just being a bit puzzled about something that I created with positive intentions that just gets down voted with no explanation, that's why I'm asking. The upvotes are obviously pretty useless as of now and they're fully funded by myself so I wouldn't see the harm in that, even if one doesn't see any positive value in this to exist.
I didn't even read the initial post until now, as I said the name, way it was promoted and general history and exp with those things is going to automatically turn people off. I see now it didn't have the usual intentions but the idea is to generate upvotes based on ad revenue. There should still be some thought towards who receives the votes however cause there's already a lot of "bad curation" happening on here.
Thanks a lot for reading up on it and your feedback. Maybe I rushed things a little, but I wanted to get something out quickly to generate experience and gather feedback. There's of course a lot of aspects of the service that will need adjusting over time, but for now I thought just being able to request and upvote could be incentive to visit the website. I'm aware there will have to be captchas and whatnot to prevent bots from spamming, but otoh the network will prevent the service from spamming due to lack of RC / voting power if used too heavily.
I've been thinking about how to use the service to better curate content, but decided to keep it incredibly simple at the beginning and not overcomplicate things.
I know there's a lot of history on this blockchain with a lot of exploitative behavior (like anywhere where there's "free" money) so everybody is super skeptical about things, but there should also be room for people who are new to experiment with things without being shot down without further explanation (it's very demotivating, to say the least).
Anyway, thanks for your insights, I'll be iterating.
Yeah, I guess using the word "free upvote" did trigger a few people, myself included - along with all the other things.
How does this work anyway? Are you instantly able to generate some value from people viewing the ads or is it all based on clicks only?
Maybe there's something to this if you'd be open to pairing it up with an actual curation service, where all the posts wouldn't be guaranteed to be curated but at least considered. Then again the next question is what happens with the HP you'd power up from ad revenue, is it just yours? etc.
I could be interested in this depending on how it works in the backend and how it's operated if you'd be up for sharing more info and maybe applying it to an existing website such as POSH or something of that nature.
I assumed it is a phishing scam. It looks like it, with some random link attached. Is it not?
No the page is legit and there's no phishing involved. Is it not good to include links in automatically generated comments?
Not links that go to unfamiliar places at least. Plus, it can be a bit spammy. Remember that there is a hell of a lot of phishing here and abd the cost of being caught by one can be high.
I won't upvote it, but I will remove the downvote. However, it looks like other people have downvoted it a few times before also.
Thanks a lot for getting involved!