Excerpts & Rants From Romantic Delusions

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Don't believe everything you read here because I'm just a content creator hoping to teach, inform, entertain, and most importantly enlighten.


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Okay, I use to be your typical normal young man, the prospect of money excited me. I was new to crypto, and I was beginning to imagine how much I could achieve with Crypto, how far I could go, I was just fresh from surviving a toxic job that nearly took my life, and had me in a sick bed for close to a month and I wasn't bent on doing any jobs that would threaten my health situations even if it meant going broke. So I was enthused and excited about crypto until I fell in love with this Ghanaian lady. Funny thing is that she was exactly the opposite of what I was. I was calmer, calculative, and laid back, she was brash, curious, and full of unimaginable ideas.

She was the type that was known to act and think later. This means that she wasn't bothered about consequences, she just did things that would primarily soothe her. I loved her initial warmness, she seemed like the real deal on the surface. But I had a lot of distractions with trying to get employed, trying to put food on the table, and staying sane from thinking of all the potential bills you have to pay. You know how a woman is initially warm, all that care and all that sweetness, and you completely fall without checking to see if it's legit? That was what I did. I guess I'd never felt that from another woman. She felt oddly specific... Like what the doctors prescribed for me. In the first few weeks, she was exactly what I'd asked for. Although this was a red flag.


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When you see a woman who's too good to be true. Then she's too good to be true, there shouldn't be doubting your instincts. I mean even good people eschew a little lit bit of incapacitation, you'd see that they're rough around the edges. They'll need a little blending to get them in line. But when someone is exactly what you ask for without imperfection. This is a red flag because it's either you have something they want or they know what you want and are willing to get in by hook or crook. I was completely taken away even when my instincts warned me. But it took only a couple of months for me to realize this. It began with beautiful eat-outs, a lovely embrace in the cool evening, turkey and rice, and endless text messages of fidelity and affection.

Then there are Snapchat selfies, those beautiful creamy filters. Cooking stew in the kitchen and watching the sun from the bathroom window, it ended with unreturned calls, excuses, and disinterest. asking lies, more tactical lies, then cheating, denial, and.....pffffffff. (imitates blow-up sound) "what do women really want?" Turned out that was who she really was. It's hard to mend broken women. She had a hazy past and it kept haunting her. She had conundrums of dark secrets and these secrets were so dark, they scared the living hell out of her. But I wanted to pick up the broken pieces so we could begin something new and different. But, the person who did the matchmaking promised me she was an angel from above, she choked the girl into my throat like pap given to a crying baby.

She was like "Joseeeeppphhhh, "gadamit you need a woman, you can't keep living this way"*. She told me the Ghanian was my specks. I asked. How would you know my specks? She said. You like them humble, god-fearing, and committed. She was my cousin's girlfriend anyway, I guess she'd studied my rather secretive life and I applauded her. I caved in to the pressure and we were matchmaked. The problem was that she told the girl too much. Then the girl probably expected too much. She was told I was a prince charming and I might be rich, give or take. But the irony was that I was broke and unemployed. The matchmaker fucked me over, by painting me too good.
(I have a problem when people mistake light skin for good looks). I guess she was wrong. But on her part, She was beautiful, she had this solemn smile that turned the day into evening.

She could wreck any man's world with that smile, but that wasn't overkill. The attitude she displayed on the surface was like medicine to all ills. But it still baffles me how she ended up the way she ended up. She became everything I feared at the end and this nasty sense of entitlement. I woke up one rainy morning, called her number, and told her I was calling it quit. She played the victim for a while but then it wasn't even a few weeks before she jumped to the next man. I didn't care, it wasn't my business, I was done. You see her beauty was magic, could get anyone she wanted, but she had fundamental issues that needed to be dealt with.

She wasn't focusing on these issues. She felt it was the men who had the issues and hence she needn't change for anyone. From then till now, I have had an issue with people who are beautiful, it feels like they'll always end up like that Ghanaian because she's created a stereotype and it's hard to believe you won't see someone who's beautiful without malignant and sinister attitude. However, that was then. Presently I believe love isn't enough and you know why? There's the aspect of tolerance and understanding that two people need to achieve and if it's not there, even if they love themselves, there'll be excessive toxicity. Anyways. I'll stop here, I'm sure I must have thrilled you, now I have to get back to writing finance immediately I'm recovered.




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Whaaaaaat!!! Ghanaian lady you say? How did your cousin become friends with her?

She felt oddly specific... Like what the doctors prescribed for me.

Lol you got some bars I’ll give you that😂😂 This entire post is littered with barrrrrs brother🔥

I’m saving this for myself. Who knows, maybe I can impress some girl with this right here. If it doesn’t work, all the blame is on you.😂😂


People have painted this idea of the perfect partner and called it a “soulmate”, and won’t settle for nothing less. All the while, the idea of this soulmate illusion is going to be the end of a lot of people. A perfect partner really is a deep red flag for me. But that is not to say they don’t exist. This is just to say that most of the time, it’s just someone selling you what they know you want to see or hear…But also, people need to take what I’m saying with a grain of salt because some people have taken the believe that the perfect partner is an illusion so serious they won’t stay with a partner that doesn’t seem to have any problems. If there are no fights or arguments for instance, they get bored or start to question their partner’s genuinely. You might be lucky enough to meet someone genuinely perfect. The odds are the problem.

Whaaaaaat!!! Ghanaian lady you say? How did your cousin become friends with her?

Well, I guess the lady was friends with my cousin's girlfriend so, you know, a friend of my friend, is my friend. Hahaha.

I’m saving this for myself. Who knows, maybe I can impress some girl with this right here. If it doesn’t work, all the blame is on you.😂😂

Please do that. The truth of the situation is that, sometimes being extraordinary cheeky with words can take us places.

You might be lucky enough to meet someone genuinely perfect. The odds are the problem.

The perfect person doesn't exist and this is why we sacrifice a lot of our essence. Marriage, relationship is about letting of the things you'll want in other to settle for peace and compatibility. At the end of the day, we want something, but end up settling for something different entirely you know. I saw a picture you took some days ago of an afro lady drawing blood or something, I thought she was the one?

I saw a picture you took some days ago of an afro lady drawing blood or something, I thought she was the one?

Oh no that can’t be her. The odds are too crazy. This would be the biggest coincidence in the history books if it actually turned out to be her. By the way, the lady in the picture is my classmate and my team mate who I work together with for our final year project. She’s called Thelma. Does it ring a bell?

Oh no that can’t be her. The odds are too crazy.

Hahaha why are the odds crazy? Is it because you consider her too classy for you?

She’s called Thelma. Does it ring a bell?

Thelma, no, not really, is she on hive? Should I want to know her?

Hahaha why are the odds crazy?
Well because me and you are random strangers that just met here, so I’d consider the odds of me being friends and classmates with your Ghanaian lady, very unlikely. Wouldn’t you?

Is it because you consider her too classy for you?

Absolutely not😌
I thought you were saying she looked like your long lost Ghanaian love lol.

Thelma, no, not really, is she on hive? Should I want to know her?

Nah she’s not on Hive. You’d want to know her though. She’s a very fun and lively person. Carefree and open-minded, and has a way with being dramatic.😂 I’m working on onboarding her atm, so if I do succeed, she’ll knock on your door🙂.

Nah she’s not on Hive. You’d want to know her though. She’s a very fun and lively person. Carefree and open-minded, and has a way with being dramatic.😂 I’m working on onboarding her atm, so if I do succeed, she’ll knock on your door🙂.

This was how the estranged Ghanaian I know was in the beginning, hahaha she turned out to be my nemesis and dealt terribly with me hahaha.

Hahaha why are the odds crazy?
Well because me and you are random strangers that just met here, so I’d consider the odds of me being friends and classmates with your Ghanaian lady, very unlikely. Wouldn’t you?

Well I didn't really think of this before, but now I was actually thinking of it and you were right.

Must’ve been pretty bad if you’re using nemesis haha.

😂😂😂😂💔💔💔💔 sorry o, but I just had to laugh.
Ghanaian in the mud...meanwhile, I am not laughing at your dilemma.
I could have just overlooked this and passed like we always do but I just had to figure out if finance-oriented missed his way 😂

The story is super story sha. I mean who falls for matchmaking these days? Really dude? I guess you fell for it cause as you said, she seemed to be everything you asked for, too good to be true they say.
Well, it's all good since you realized what was going on and decided to call it off.
I sha hope you are doing well and this happened some years ago but if it happened recently, take heart.

You can now head back to your finance, e be like you don miss road😂💔🏃‍♀️

Okay erhmm sorry for replying this late. I got into a situation last night and it became really difficult to reply to this comment. It's not like match making is old fashioned, I know people who are happily married by match making, Infact I know way more people, the conventional ways of doing these things are not really in vogue again.
Plus, I wanted to write a finance post, but then, I decided to switch it up a little, not bad for something new.

Yes, this happened a lot time ago, some snippets in there suggested it was a while ago.
Yeah, I called it off quite early, I guess in life, sometimes we need to make tough choices for the benefit of our mental health.

Like you said, Ghanian in the mud though, another lesson I added to me. Thanks for coming through.

I totally agree with you, love isn’t enough, there’s this level of understanding and certain compromises both partners have to attain honestly if not the relationship is definitely going to crash.

You're right, love isn't enough, but while we were growing up, we were made to think it was actually enough. These days, sometimes we make a lot of sacrifices for compatibility, it's crazy.

So crazy. A lot of sacrifices, it’s just to find someone who would make things easy for you

I guess our expectations are the things that hurt us. If there’s anything I’ve learnt about deli, it’s that no one is perfect and as humans as we will make mistakes at a point.

But i guess you’ve learnt to not ignore certain red flags now

Well sometimes we don't listen to red flags and it ends up to be really costly. But we can't blame ourselves, sometimes hope blinds us to reality. Thanks for coming through.

I know right! We hope that it gets better till the point that it’s too late

Ohhh okay, I went to your profile to try and upvote any of your post but you haven't written any posts lately

Yeah
Have been a bit busy but will be posting one hopefully today

That's why I'm being myself on any date, even if it's at the end, man! We spend too much time trying to be liked, we end up getting what we deserve). Maybe I'm wrong, but it's quicker to dot the i's that way.

You're not wrong I must say, when it comes to relationships, we must find a way to attain minimalism. Thanks for coming through.

It was a pleasure to participate! The topic is very non-trivial, in fact...
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