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It's a good idea to apologize when you discover you have breached someone's trust in you or upset them with your words or actions.
I hate it when people lose trust in me since I value trust so much, so anytime I make a mistake in a situation, I quickly apologize.
When I was a kid, my parents trained me and my siblings to say sorry whenever we hurt ourselves.
Whenever I abused my immediate brother, my mother would always call and tell me to apologize to him
The word "sorry" was strong to each member of our family, and this has been a part of us to this day.
My Experience With Apology
Due to the way I was raised, I have no trouble apologizing when I'm wrong in any circumstance. I only apologize when I'm wrong because certain individuals will hurt you and they want you to say sorry.
I won't ever apologize in this circumstance since doing so would be hurtful to me and even disrespectful to myself. I dislike disrespecting or hurting myself.
When I wasn't wrong, my wife was the only person to whom I ever used to apologize.
My brothers used to tell me before I got married how they constantly apologize to their spouses, even when they are not at fault.
I used to make fun of them and promise to never do that after I get married. They used to say, I will understand when I get there," as a response.
After I got married, lo and behold, I learned that women enjoy the word "sorry" more than anything else in a relationship.
In the first year of our marriage, I used to always apologize, even when I was not wrong. Because my wife was expecting our daughter at the time, and I had read various books about pregnant women's aggressive behaviour.
So I don't care about the apology. I used to apologize frequently, but I realized I had overused the word, and she had started to take advantage of it.
I changed the way I said sorry after my wife gave birth. Today, I only say it when I'm clearly wrong.
As a result, some actions in the family have been addressed with increased caution and respect.
A scenario I refused to say sorry
I had a dispute with my landlady then. After all, she dislikes it when tenants interact with one another because she worries that they will talk negatively about her.
Then, I had a new neighbour. He was friendly, so we used to talk about football and investments. The landlady was even concerned that we would take over her home because we were so close.
My neighbour was concerned when his house rent expired. Because he wasn't prepared with the entire amount. So when he asked for my advice, I replied that he should approach the landlady and give her half the rent. He should make a promise to the woman about when he would balance the payment.
When the time he promised to balance came, he didn't have the money on hand, so I advised him to approach the landlady and ask for a new payment date, promising that he wouldn't default this time. So he took that action.
After a few days, the landlady confronted me that I was the one that caused my neighbour not to complete his payment. That she is confident that he has the money, but I was the one that convinced him not to pay. She proceeded that my neighbour told her.
I was so angry and I explained that I can't do that, but this woman did not accept. I called my neighbour and we went to meet the landlady. I told the woman to repeat what she said about my neighbour but she denied that she didn't say that.
I was shocked that an elderly woman could incriminate someone. After that incident, the woman gave my neighbour and I quit notice.
I was told by our other neighbours in the compound to apologise to the woman. I claimed that I can't apologize, I'm the one that deserved an apology.
Our other neighbours were concerned about me, because of relocation stress and how to move my properties. But I wasn't concerned about that. I can't say sorry in this situation, if I say sorry, that means I'm at fault. So I refused to say sorry.
Since I didn't cause myself any harm by apologizing, I moved out of the residence with a clear conscience.
The woman gave everyone a quit notice after I left the area.
Later, the things they had been afraid of occurred.
I was informed that they used to apologize all the time, even when they weren't at fault.
Anyone who refuses to apologize to the woman will face harassment.
In conclusion, saying sorry is an important instrument when used sincerely and properly. In some circumstances, apologizing might not be required or suitable.
These instances might include: If someone is trying to trick you into saying sorry for something you did not do or for something that was not your fault, be cautious to say sorry in this case.
When apologizing would put your safety at risk, It is not advised to apologize if doing so would put you in danger or risk your safety.
But if you are truly wrong, you should apologise for your wrongdoings.
Thank You All For Reading
Everyone has the victim syndrome so they will do what they can to try to make you look like the bad one by gaslighting
Being careful in this case and being able to stand your ground will really help
Nice one brother 🚀
Thank you so much for stopping by bro,I was happy I didn't say sorry. Because I won't be happy with myself.
That's right my bro
I hope you had a great day bro?
I can relate to an extent with your story. Unfortunately, I am the type of person that will apologize, even if it's not my fault, just to keep the peace. It's just easier that way.
Your landlady reminds me of the witch in every fairytale story. Why would she be that bitter, I wonder. But it's good that you held up your stance of not apologizing. So she, and everyone else knows not to mess with you. It prevents disrespect.
Cheers to you and your family. Women, we too get wahala shaa😅😅
I wouldn't have forgiven myself if I apologise, because I later heard from her daughter that even though I apologise, she wouldn't seize to give me the quit notice.
I don't even care about the quit notice, I can't be living with someone that lies against me. I'm a principle man.
I laughed out when I heard she chased everyone away from her house.
Women love I'm sorry more than anything, just say sorry if you don't want a problem.
Thank you for stopping by, you are amazing!!
It's like she is not ready to be a landlady
That's how God made us😋😅
You're amazing too 🤗 God bless.
You know Lagos Landlords does not care. They will always see who will rent their apartment. They even like to have new tenants every year so that they can always collect commission and also increase rent.
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Trust is the greatest value I cherish.... I rather love it that you hate me other than you don't trust me... It's as cherished as that
So you apologized out of fear😂😂.
Hmmm... This landlady deserves that house be taken away from her..she's very shitty at her job 🤧.
Although I say sorry sometimes when I'm wronged, your case Wasa totally different thing
Lol, I didn't apologise cos of fear, I just want to be an understanding man and I don't want to stress her, because of her condition.
Some Lagos land ladies are terrible because they feel like they are on top of the world.
Thank you for stopping by bro, you are amazing!!
Well... I wouldn't push that button too much since I am not yet married 😂 but that was a cool thing you did 👍.
Anything for peace
Oh? It's Lagos 🤦
You're welcome man
When you marry, you will say sorry counties of time, or else your wife will show you shege , lol.
Just kidding , you will enjoy the shege she will show you 🌝🌝
Hahaha...... Shege with love 😂
Sure now, she will be moody for days
Thanks for this piece of advice.
Na so I go dy gather them small small until I finally marry😅
Pregnan women’s aggressive behavior.😂
Women are just a different kind of species that needs careful handling.
Your landlady should have approached this issue in a better manner. She owes you and the others a sincere apology. It’s good you knew you didn’t have to apologize.
You know your self worth.
Women's problem is many, we just have to manage them.
I'm so happy I didn't downgrade myself.
I left the apartment as a legend, lol.
Thank for you stopping by dear friend.
Women are not happy with you.😂😂😂
That was a good move.👏
Women are happy o, the like how I said the truth
We are not happy .
Ha! What kind of backward landlady is that, trying to take advantage of someone because he is your tenant, and the guts in expecting an apology in return.
I'm happy you know your self worth and stood your ground, I won't apologize either in such kind of situation.
I'm so happy I left as a legend.
That woman is hell, she wanted an apology from me, even with that stupid act.
People said I should apologise, and I said never!!
Thank you for stopping by dear friend, you are amazing!!
There was a time I was FORCED to apologize publicly to a senior colleague.
I felt terrible and blocked the person after I made the apology.
It hurts when one is right and one is made to apologize
Onye kwuru dat tin??
Who gave you the notion that women loves hearing sorry..?... don't use that as an opportunity to always do something wrong because it will get to a time your word “sorry” doesn't mean a thing and isn't valuable.Then one would be taken for granted because they can't tell when you meant something and deviate from the other.
It's important to always make peace but buying peace with your respect isn't advisable.
I'm telling you from experience that women love sorry, it's not a notion. It's the fact.
All my siblings told me before I marry and even me and my friends are experiencing it.
A relationship expert says and I quote 'if you want peace in your home, learn how to say sorry countless times'.
If you read other married women's posts on this, you will also understand.
Not that I say sorry all the time, but in some instances, you must say sorry so that you can enjoy your peace of mind at home.
I hope you understand dear, thank you for stopping by.
This applies to both partners to ensure a peaceful environment and healthy growth of their relationship. Your experience is your personal encounter though not everyone's. I don't know how true that fact is but I will tell you that for me... saying sorry and not changing attitude won't work for me. If you like start saying that sorry from now till next week. I might adhere to it but I know within myself it's worthless. I'm glad I stopped by...see you around.
The sorry it's not about the man saying sorry, but the woman wanting sorry all the time.
That's the point of that statement.
Maybe you don't request sorry from your partner as others do!!
Yay! 🤗
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