"it just can't get any worse" I said to myself. But eventually it always did.
I was fed with ambiguous beliefs and opinions. But life kept challenging them all.
I was told that good things happen to good people. And life is about working hard and climbing the social ladder- owning expensive materials and an occupation that gets you respect in society.
But when my father got cancer. I saw a 3-month-old die in the hospital because of tumors in his brain, he wasn't a good human probably, a culprit for being born. So karma hit that poor child.
And soon I realized that climbing the social ladder is another lame theory being fed to humans in the name of success.
It's sole purpose is not to command respect but to make others jealous and insecure- see how I am better than you, above than you- at a better designation, with more influence, more luxury and more wealth. It's designed to inspire envy and hatered.
I ditched the social ladder. My desires do not need to be a projection of beliefs of my parents and society on me - about what they think is a good life.
Along the way I have busted many such cultural beliefs, life theories and popular opinions. And here are some of the hard truths I learned that I wish I knew earlier.
Karma Isn't a Bitch Or Boomerang
Karma is a flawed concept created by humans to suppress and justify their desire for revenge.
Whatever you do doesn't come back to you in the same form. Bad things happen to good people. And bad people also prosper in certain ways.
That's life. And it doesn't work in the way you think it does.
If karma could do the justice, we would probably need no laws.
People Are Picky
They are going to tell you stories that justify their way of thinking and beliefs.
Like how some of them reap the karmic outcomes of their bad deeds and how how some of them became billionaires by dropping out of college.
They won't quote the people who are most honest and most miserable. Or those who dropped out, became drug addicts and died in a shit hole.
Physical Attractiveness Plays An Influential Role in How We Perceive Others
Despite whatever people may tell you. We convince ourselves to believe in lies like- looks don't matter, just because this is how it should be.
People want to hear what's good and reasonable, not what's true.
But life is unfair. And books have always been judged by their covers and they will be. People have always been judged by their looks and they will be.
Life will be definitely a bit easier if you will try to look pretty.
Not Having Enough Money Sucks
Money can and does buy happiness up to a certain extent.
Money isn't just a tool to pay your bills. It's necessary to buy experiences, acquire knowledge, remain healthy, help your loved ones and solve many more problems including creating more free time for you to do things you love.
Money controls the vast majority of things that impact your life. Money matters, period. Only those who have way more than enough say that it doesn't.
A Relationship Isn't The Key to Happiness
Don't get me wrong. Relationships can be amazing and fulfilling if you happen to find the right partner.
But before you dive into them you need to learn how to enjoy your own self and make yourself happy.
Healthy relationships need two assertive grown-ups who don't think that their partner has a full-time job to make them feel better.
You are not a half. No one can complete you. You were fully formed and living before you met anyone. If you feel incomplete and alienated in any way, it is a problem for you to explore. No other half can fix it. Don't seek love to escape yourself.
Your Family Is Anyone Who Has Best Interests For You
And not necessarily who you share your bloodline with.
Get over with forced relationships and get rid of people who are always trying to pull you down. Doesn't matter even if they are your immediate blood relatives. Cease contact.
Don't waste your energy in pleasing those who don't care about you. One true friend is way more than an entire family.
Work Will Feel Like Work
Do what you love and you won't have to work for a day in your life
Is a myth.
Working sucks and it's going to be that way for the rest of your life.
Doing something for fun is different than doing something to put food on your plate. Doing things out of obligation, in deadlines, when you don't feel like it and when you don't have a choice - feels like doing work.
It is uncomfortable and will be. You just curse less often and look at the clock less often. And most of the time you just get engaged in it unknowingly and start enjoying the process.
Otherwise doing what you love for a living also requires efforts, discipline, determination, consistency and sacrifice.
Resources Are Double Edged Swords
Books won't make you smart and social media won't make you dumb either.
You might not be a doctor, but you can still use a knife to cut open someone's stomach or you can use it to chop onions and cry.
You can either build a nuclear power plant or an MK28. Resources are just resources, what matters is how you put them to use.
Unexpected Will Happen At Unexpected Times
Life events follow Murphy's law- 'If something can go wrong, it will'
Exactly like the world and economy slowed down because of COVID-19 (Coronavirus) outbreak.
Your computer might crash while working on an important project. Your car might break when you would be already late for a meeting. Your documents might get stolen while on a vacation in a foreign country.
A million other things can go wrong that you never think about. Always expect the unexpected. So when shit hits the fan, you can stay calm and deal with it.
It's Nobody Else's Job To Fix You
If you are shot in the gut, don't wait for some god's angel to appear and rescue you.
If you can't use your phone or find help then drag yourself to the hospital instead of waiting for some magic to happen and eventually die because of blood loss and cardiac arrest.
Life can throw a hundred stones at you at the same time. But complaining is just misery. And waiting for the world to come to you and fix your broken shit is worse.
It's your job to figure out ways and get out alive from the holocaust. You are on your own so learn to be self-reliant.
What's the hard truth about life that you have experienced or learned, tell me in the comments below 👇
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