Hola mamá y papá
Although it may sound strong and more than one of you may not fully agree with me, I know that in most cases this is the case. Harassment starts at home or in many cases it is covered up by giving it another name, without knowing that by doing so, we are not helping at all, but on the contrary, with this attitude we only give our approval to this abusive and cruel behaviour.
When I started teaching, I remember that I had one of the strongest grades, 3rd "D", I had already had two teachers before me and they had only done the first term. As soon as I entered the room, I realized one of the "whys"
""Fe y Alegría empieza donde termina el asfalto, donde se acaba el cemento, donde no llega el agua potable. Es decir, donde están los auténticos olvidados de su propia sociedad"
P. José María Vélaz
I was a teacher for 11 years in a school "Fe y Alegría" and those who know about these institutions know that they are located in the most needy neighbourhoods, honouring their motto:
""Fe y Alegría begins where the asphalt ends, where the cement ends, where drinking water does not reach. That is to say, where the real forgotten people of their own society are"
Fr. José María Vélaz.
I had, among the variety of cases, a girl who always picked on girls who looked weaker or smaller than her and wouldn't leave them until she saw them crying and then she started to laugh at them. Like any good bully, she surrounded herself with other children who did everything to please her. On two occasions we had a meeting with her and the headmistress and we talked, warning her of the consequences of her actions and her response was always "shrugging her shoulders".
We tried to work on it from the school, but we realised that we were attacking the evil from one side only and we were not seeing results, so we decided to call her mother. When she answered the call and I told her that we needed to talk to her about her child, she immediately responded, "so what did you do there? if you come to me with gossip, I'm going to drag you home from school by the hair. (in other words, don't bother me or I'll treat her badly).
We then told the girl that we had spoken to her mother about her behaviour and on this occasion, in addition to shrugging her shoulders, she told us that her mother already knew, that she told her that she "had to be respected by people", that her mother hit her with whatever she had in her hand when they gossiped about her and that she was used to it. We realised where so much cruelty, anger and bad behaviour came from.
In the meeting with her mother we didn't get any positive answers or anything that would indicate that she was going to try to change her behaviour, so we realised that the fight had to be fought at school. I committed myself to them and especially to my daughter and little by little, (I will tell you in another post about this in the next post) I applied strategies, group therapies with which, at least at school, we saw great changes in attitude in her and in others who were in a situation similar to hers. I decided to be the example that they needed to follow and that they did not have at home.
There are some parents who do not want to realize that their children are blank canvases and that they and their actions are the brushes and paints that will draw their future behavior in their minds.
And this is my star student. With the effort of both sides (family-school) we can achieve what we set out to do
"Necesitamos hablar, hablar, hablar con nuestros hijos y contar antes de golpear o maltratarles verbalmente y si somos de poco hablar, por lo menos démosles el ejemplo, que habla por sí solo. Recordemos que el niño es lo que ve hacer"
"We need to talk, talk, talk to our children and tell them before hitting or verbally abusing them and if we don't talk much, at least let's give them an example, which speaks for itself. Let's remember that the child is what he sees doing"
Si hacemos nuestro trabajo en casa no habrá necesidad de ningún tipo de castigo. Los invito a ver cómo un padre castigó a su hija por ser una bravucona
Gracias por tu visita y tu lectura
Educating is easier than teaching because to teach you need to know, but to educate you need to Be. Quino
This is a true fact @esthersanchez
"Let's remember that the child is what he sees doing"
And you have a tough job but seem to have it under control in the best way you can keep that great work up 😊
Hello @kohsamui!
In my country there is a very popular saying that I think fits in cases like this.
"Grain by grain the hen fills the crop. Meaning that by doing something with perseverance, we can achieve whatever we want. I think the word Constancy is the key.
Thank you for your kind visit dear friend!
So true if more people thought that way it would be a better world to live in but greed and power takes over unfortunately 😡
Let's continue to do what is required, without losing hope dear friend!
Best regards!
True @esthersanchez take care and be safe my friend 😊
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Hola @esthersanchez. Feliz y bendecida noche. Escelente post. Y tienes mucha razón a las personas no les gusta escuchar la verdad, esa que le corroe. Y es así, la educación arranca en el hogar, pero si ya ese hogar por si mismo no genera valores, la situación es mas delicada. 👏 por tu loable labor. Mientras se pueda ayudar al más débil y con amor se consiguen muchas cosas.
Agradezco te hayas tomado el tiempo de leer y de dejar tu comentario de apoyo!
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