Losing a child can be a devastating experience for a mom. It hurts deeply to see your expectations unfulfilled after a 9-month journey. It happened to me 10 years ago, and I felt deeply hurt. I reflected on the 9-month journey, the discomfort, the hormonal changes, the daily routine drugs, the injections, and many other factors associated with pregnancy.
If I have my way, I will say that no mom should lose any child after pregnancy, but I am not God in any way; I am just expressing how I feel over this experience.
In my case, I had twin boys but lost one after surgery , yet I felt it terribly, not to talk of moms who, after the whole journey, lost the only baby they have been expecting since nine months ago.
One of our workers texted me yesterday and said her wife is in labor and they needed some money in the form of a loan to deposit in the hospital so the wife can be attended to. The man tried reaching my husband but couldn't, so he reached out to me. I called my husband and explained the situation. He sent me money and said I should give them the money as support, not as a loan. I transferred the money immediately to the man and wished the wife a safe delivery.
He was happy, and I could feel how much he was relieved as I spoke with him. Only for him to text me this morning that they lost the baby after birth. I called him immediately to know what transpired, and he began to explain things that left me in pain. He said the wife never registered for antenatal in the hospital but through a nurse practicing on her own in her chemist store. So when the labor started, it got complicated along the line, and the nurse referred them to the hospital.
The hospital checked the wife and discovered that the umbilical cord tied the baby so much that the mom can't deliver him through VG but rather through Cs. The man, upon hearing CS, rejected it immediately. Went out and called prophets who carried the woman back to the chemist store and began to pray for her. They prayed and practically forced the child out, and the baby came out dead with the cord tied around his body.I was curious to know how the mom is doing, and fortunately, she was fine without any complications but grieving about her lost child.
I understand the pain and the much preparation to welcome a new baby in a home. I understand the loss and everything, although this isn't the time to blame anyone, but there are situations that poor medical attention puts people into. Even without money, I believe the life of the baby would have been saved if they had opted for a CS as advised by the doctor.
This similar experience is becoming common among women in our neighborhood, and I kept wondering why people prefer to risk their lives rather than opt in for CS.
At the end of the day, the child is gone, and the mom is in a recovering state, both physically and emotionally. Hopefully, we keep learning better ways to practice safety in pregnancy.
I feel sad and angry at the same time. What should I say? Should I call it fate or a murder? A wrong decision cost one life and do you think it's ok to let it go. One person should take the blame for the wrong doing or foolishness.
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I feel same way, but what can I do...I expected them to fight for their own child but it wasn't the case
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Reading you story I felt sad! 😔 Even sometimes we says everything happens for a reason, but deep inside it's so hurting. Specially about life and death! I pray that the mom will be more strong and have faith in God that no matter what happens she look a brighter side. I know it's not easy, it's hard to lose a child.
This is a tragic situation that will forever haunt us... I hope no one else ever has to suffer like this.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you. I know how it feels because I also lost a child years ago, and the pain never stops... Sending you a big hug!
In my country, if the baby is at risk, a cesarean section is performed or scheduled. No mother should have to go through the loss of a child when there are ways to bring them into the world safe and sound.
That's how it should be...unfortunately, some persons still think and act otherwise
Sad and hurting 🥺
Indeed