Hope is what carries you through the darkest times. Sometimes we forget that the best way to plant this seed of hope is not in ourselves but in the next generation.
We have seen it in the news and probably old guys would notice and say that there's no hope for teens nowadays. However, this is not true. I would always go back to my younger years wherein my parents would say the same thing that my generation was hopeless as we had everything in the easy mode now and then again our generation is the one saying the same thing to the succeeding after us.
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I think this is where the problem lies. The generation gap between us and our children has made us forget how to relate to them. We have forgotten what it was like to be young, carefree, and innocent. I believe that we can still find hope in our future generations if only we would open up to them with an open mind and heart.
I believe that our children will be better than us because they have been taught what it means to be a good person. They have learned from the mistakes of their parent's generation and will not repeat them. I also believe that if we focus on what is good in people instead of focusing on their flaws, we can bring out the best in each other.
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In our household, we are used to being quiet and not voicing out what we feel. Father is a very strict man and he does not like it when we talk back to him. He thinks that if we do not listen to him, then we are rude and disrespectful.
There would be times wherein we try to voice out our concerns and problems but rather than being supportive, he would rather punish us. Even if the punishment is not severe, it still hurts to know that we are being punished for no reason at all.
While we know that our father loves us, it still feels like he is not listening to us. We are children and we do not always have the right answers, but it hurts when he criticizes us and tells us that we are wrong. So when we reached the age of maturity and the ability to reason for ourselves, my siblings either left our home and build their own families or become more and more away from the family.
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Growing up, I do not have a specific dream in mind. When I graduated from high school, the idea was to at least finish my degree and then join the working class the soonest to earn my spare.
Father wants us to pursue military, as he was part of the reserve army he wants at least one of us to become one. I was scared of it, as having a good physique thanks to being addicted to playing online games in my previous years of existence.
I pursued Psychology at a state university 3 rides away from our home but wasn't able to finish it in my 4th year as the need to work is in need.
Was it my dream? Back then it was not, I just chose the course out of the context that it was the easiest course available offered in the school. Engineering, Mathematics, and Nursing aren't on my list as I am bad with them so I just pick the easiest.
I learned that you can't be afraid to dream big. It's okay to not know what you want to do with your life and it's okay if you don't know where your career is going yet. Just make sure that when the time comes for you to choose a path, make sure it's the one that will make you happy.
It's easy to get caught up in the idea that we need to know what we want to do with our lives, but it's not true. We don't have to know yet and it's okay if we don't. The important thing is that when you're ready for a career change or new job opportunity, you'll be prepared for it.
Promotions are not available especially if your course and the work that you are aligned. So when I am eyeing stepping up the ladder, I re-enroll to complete some of the units and picked Business Management. I am a recon specialist now handling accounting books in a U.S.-based insurance company.
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It’s important to let people know that you believe in them and their ability to do a great job. This doesn’t mean being condescending or patronizing; it means believing that they have the skills and capacity to succeed.
Relating it to the experiences in Hive, being an onboarder I noticed a lot of teens having great potential as creatives. I would encourage them to explore different fields and try out new things. I would also let them know that I believed in them and how their hard work would pay off. It’s important for teens to feel like someone believes in their potential, even if it’s just one person.
We have the ability to empower the next generation by planting the seed of hope in the hearts of the next generation. In Hive, we have a lot of young people who are just starting out. We want them to feel supported and empowered.
Being an old one I would let the young ones know that they are not alone. That there are many of us who have been where they are now, and we can support them and help them find their way.
P.S. This is also an additional explanation to my super short introduction post that I have written in the old chain as some evil guy always asks what the discrepancy is.
Subrang ganda nitong gawa mo TP, nakaka open ng mind. Nakaka boost ng hopes. Choose the path that will make you happy 💞 this shoots me.
And as a parent, may natutunan ako dito. Yung anak ko tlga gusto ko lumaki na mabuting tao at di mapanghusga. Sana lng maibigay at maituro ko sa kanya magandang asal at masupurtahan sa paglaki niya. Gusto ko din maging open siya sakin at sa papa nya.
We can only hope to become one as we had experienced it from our predecessors.
Pero ayun na nga, sana sa atin na ma broke yung sumpa na iyan kasi di sya helpful din sa bata. The care na akala nila will be a toxic substance that kills the creative and the personality softly. In one of books that I read relating to Dev psych, a well supported child excels in any field.
Buti na lang talaga ako Tp, di strict parents ko in terms sa pag support regarding sa school. Supportive parents ko. Pero yun nga strict din sila kaya minsan ayaw ko mag open,. Pero nung nag teenage ako, ayun open ako sa kanila. Tas kita ko support sila sakin at sa kapatid ko. Kasi alam mo, dati daw lalo na sa side ng mama ko di daw siya supported sa gusto niya at palagi pa nilalagak dun sa bukid kesyo babae daw kasi kaya di na need mag aral. Kaya mama ko lumaki na di makapag open up sa parents at palagi takot. Kaya sabi niya, ayaw daw niya magaya kami sa kanya. Kaya kahit mahirap lang kami, basta about sa school at feelings din, gusto nila open kami.
Mahirap kasi sa mga ninuno natin eh, may mali ding pagpapalaki dati kaso more on takot ang mga anak.
Ngayong generation naman, may maganda nangyayari pero may mga hindi rin at spoiled ang bata, nasubrahab din yata hihi. Kaya as parents talaga kailangan timbang timbangin lahat.
It may be hard for the young ones now to open up because as what Khai said that's is the border we need to conquer before they can become who they want to be...
I sometimes comfortable to be silent at all when it comes to my dreams because I see the situation we are in right now but I'm saying it all to grandma since her ears are open, not just to me but to my younger cousins also..
And that is what I want for the other old people out there.. Listen to the young ones and you'll be surprise that they have so much to offer that adults don't even expect or know..
Kids these days evolved, dreaming high and what can we do about it is to support them. Give what we can.
We need to empower them.😊
If you talk back, you are rude. If you try to voice out, you are disrespectful. Some of the older generations have that kind of mindset, they think that they are always correct, and they believe that they know all the things rather than the young ones. That's why it's not shocking anymore why a lot of young individuals in this generation are afraid to voice out what they truly feel because they know what will be the outcome if they do. Silence will be the solution to avoid conflict and misunderstandings. I hope that someday, this kind of practice will eliminate. I can see improvements today, I expect more in the future.
Can't agree more to this. This is why I am more open into the insights coming from the young ones as I have very visibility of what they are seeing on their eyes and what they think of.
Though we have the experience in life our story is way different to yours. Minsan talaga sablay na yung quote na "Papunta ka palang, pabalik na ako" as it invalidate the journey of a certain individual like yaan mo kaya ako mag explore.
Wow to tell honestly I was speachless while reading its like a bullet ehh nakakatama, kasi im a full time mom at kung anu Yung kakulangan Ng mama ko hindi ko Ginawa sa mga Anak ko, but not as perfect na wla tlagang pagkukukalang. Pero ako wlang tatay wlang kapatd kaya bumawi ako sa family ko at present kung sad aw dati im happy now.
And I even let my kids make mistakes kasi d pa nila lam na Mali ehh kaya nga andtu tayo andtu para itama sila at iguide
Love this
I am really grateful for the fact that we have a voice in our family. They let us speak whatever we are feeling and thinking of. It's just sad that some families like yours Kuya have such treatment. Well, perhaps, it's time to change that as you also have your own family. I'm sure you will not let that happen to your daughter.
Yeah, I think encouragement and telling them they are doing good makes youth like me do better. It is just good that there is someone who's believing in you. Cheers for the good life.
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I'm totally agree with you @tpkidkai , Isa sa fear ko is not knowing saan ang kakahantungan ng buhay ko, ng mga pangarap ko. Madalas hindi nangyayare yung mga bagay na pinapalano natin at minsan hindi naten nalalaman na mas malayo at ,as maganda pala yung plano ni Lord sa buhay natin. We just need to trust the timing, but syempre kailngan naten kumilos. And surely God will bless whatever problems na dumating sa buhay. it's truly an eye opener. Thanks for sharing this one! Seed of HOPE!
Ganda nito, Kuya. ♡♡ An eye-opener to everyone that hope has never lost its way to spark in the eyes of the youth. And I'm pursuing Psychology now din, dream profession (char). I have found my interests and dreams here that I want to achieve someday. Thank you for sharing this, kuya Tp 😄 nakakamotivate po lagi ang mga suporta at gabay lalo na tungkol dito sa Hive. One person can make a difference to people talaga. Skl hirap din ako i-open kay mama na gusto ko lang talaga umupo buong hapon at magsulat ng tahimik, she finds it a waste of time kasi kaya hindi rin magandang simula yon and I took a lot of breaks for months many times. Glad napadpad ako sa hive to write again. Ito naman passion ko. (emz)
Glad that Hive is being able to help you out in a way. @rene.neverfound also had such experience when she started doing Hive as her mom's kinda skeptic wether she will be scammed or will be getting any payment at all on this site given na it is free and what you just need to do is to write stuff ( too good to be true naman talaga) but now she is supported as well by her mom.
Maybe she just need some affirmation and assurance na there's something in what you do na worthwhile. Kung wala pa naman for now, sabihin mo na it is a way for you to express yourself etc.
About Psych nako ituloy mo yan! Sobrang helpful nyang course na iyan. Been reading a lot again relating to Psych ( Clinical Psych ) ako and I am able to use some of them irl. ( medyo mahal nga lang ang books hahaha.
Yun na nga po, pero naiintindihan na rin ako ni Mama paonti-unti ngayon siguro nasanay na siya sa'kin at nakita niya na yung mga notebooks na sinisulatan ko noon hindi lang basta basta sakin 😅
Thanks kuya! Pagbubutihin ko po sa psych, I'll read stuffs about it in advance kahit sa e-book muna kasi true na ang mahal ng physical books hahaha.
hahahah nako nako for sure she will understand yan.
may site ako na pinag da downloadan nakalimutan ko lang at di ko makita dito sa bookmarks ko. Dami ding books na available dun.
From a child's perspective, parents should speak life to the children instead of comparing how we live our lives now to how they lived their lives before. There's no way to compare. The world is innovating. So, it's given that we will have an advantage. Instead of comparing, they must encourage the kids to use the benefits we enjoy today to our advantage.
What I love about my parent's parenting is that they let us explore. They give us free will and responsibility to decide and I think it helped us as we grow old. It's good to have a sense of responsibility for oneself as early as possible. But of course, there would still be guidance from them.