Hello everyone! I read the topics posted by @galenkp and today I will write about it. The topics are really interesting, but this weekend I have to think a little more about what to write. I decided on the topic of what three pieces of advice I would give to a friend on a first date. I read a few posts on this topic and everyone mostly gives the same advice.
- My first piece of advice would be Body Language
I'll explain what I mean by that right away. When I was young and I had a lot of dates and girlfriends, but the first thing I notice about a woman is how she sits, what she does with her hands, and how she crosses her legs. If that turns me on, let's move on. The girl I saw and fell in love with immediately walked into the cafe with such grace and style and I told her she would be my wife.So I would explain to my friend what women like in men and what they notice first.Don't sit with your arms crossed, bent or stiff. An open attitude, relaxed palms and slightly inclined body towards the interlocutor. A slight smile is the next important signal. And what is very important is eye contact. Eye contact shows that you are present, interested and confident. You should not stare, but once in a while hold your gaze long enough for the other person to feel that you really care about what they are saying. That would be my first and most important advice, because in my opinion, the first impression when you meet someone is very important. The photo shows me and my wife when we met 35 years ago.
- Tip number two would be to not talk too much about yourself and not bring up difficult topics.
We may do this unconsciously, wanting to make a good impression, but if you don't leave room for the other person to participate, communication becomes one-sided and laborious.Questions about ex-partners, plans for marriage and children, family traumas, or finances may seem like a sign of seriousness, but in reality they often create pressure and discomfort.The first date should be an opportunity to get to know each other lightly, to discover the basics that help you decide if you want to see each other again.
-The third piece of advice I would give him is to not play unattainable or too accessible.
What does that mean?
In an effort to maintain control of the situation, we often resort to strategies we've picked up from movies by playing it cool and lacking, or acting as if we're already emotionally invested after a few minutes.People can sense when someone is being honest and when they are playing a game.I would tell him that if he likes that person, he should show it naturally, without exaggeration.
I hope I was successful in giving advice. Thanks for reading my post
Dragan
I think you have mentioned some very sensible advices. Dating can be a terrible experience, but with a few easy concept like you mention it can become a bit easier. I wonder how many people fail at dates losing the potential of getting to know a really nice person simply because they have not done the few easy things you mention.
Becca 🌷
Thanks. I hope I helped a little.
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