But at the end what matters more is that how best we enable our next generation to lead a responsible life.
Last two months have been pretty occupied for him, with a new learning curve introduced - this time some real life learning to drive the two wheeler as well as the car. This year he is very busy, preparing for competitive and when everyone else at home was against the idea of teaching him driving, I strongly pushed it and taught him two wheeler driving. My wife and in-laws were fearing about he getting into the road on his own - many people, especially youngsters now a days are doing very rash driving and even though he may drive well, others can hit him causing injuries. But then will the kid never drive just because of that fear ? Am I not driving ?
Unless you are borne with a silver spoon, in India, you can't manage without learning driving. For middle class people like us, driving not only gives us freedom from depending on others, but also we save a lot by using a two wheeler for all nearby shopping. You simply can't use the car for everything - it will fill like a burden after some time. So I first taught him to drive the scooty inside the society premises. Within couple of days, he was confident to go outside but wanted me to sit with him - our kids need a push from us as they have not been exposed to tough situations of real life needs. All along they have been leading a comfortable life, focusing solely on studies ( which he has done well), but then real life needs more - and the only way you can learn them is by facing them yourself. And nobody can guarantee that, nothing will happen - driving is purely a reflection of thoughts executed in real time - you may be fully right - but if the other person does wrong, it will impact you. All we can do is to be careful, as much as we can, to the best of our abilities and I am very glad to say that the kid has obeyed all my guidance, to be a responsible and mature driver.
Today was his driving test for both the two wheeler and the car and I must say, he drove pretty well than everyone else, giving the indicator at the right places. No one else was giving indicator, even some were not able to do it rightly, touching their feet. Recording is not allowed, but I managed to record a small clip for his lifetime memoir.
And for the car driving, I let him go through a training school for two times - the second time bringing some fine touch. And after that, I went with him to drive our car for one hour, every day, though different routes. Sitting beside him in the front, guiding him how to deal in different situations, gave him lot of confidence - some real on road confidence with some tricks from me. In India, there is no real rule on road - it's always people's choice to behave as they want and if someone can drive here, then I am sure, they won't fail anywhere else in the world.
So with all the learning from last two months, he was able to clear the driving test in the first attempt - a big confidence boost to certify that he is a good driver. I am not sure, if you have given the driving test in a fair way or not, but the way they tell you to come back, it's very tough to accomplish that and only two people passed today, including him. And I personally believe, if they will be very strict on everyone clearing this test in a fair way, then there won't be any accidents - because everyone will be a good driver then.
So today is a memorable day for both of us - it's a big win for me to bring him through all these transformative experience that will make him a better man. Of course I will lose the power when he takes over - but there is happiness in that loss - after all, the purpose of our life (as parent) is to make them stand on their own feet. Now everyone in the family cheers up - men will always have to take the risk, isn't it ?
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Yes it should be a memorable day for you...
Look in third world countries like India and Pakistan if someone is driving on the roads , he may not fail anywhere else in the world. I agree with your thought...
We should not over pempered our children because it makes them a weak person of society..
Practical life is very difficult so we prepare them for facing the hardships of life..
Dubai test is hard even for Pakistani drivers.
We as a nation don't like to follow law, but when fines r hefty in darhams, it hard to drive
Completely agree with you Bhai
It is quite strange these days to go for driving test. Although it is a right way but most of the places consider it as a formality and leave the test....he must be happy man today.
Yes, most people pay extra to get it done, but doing it in a fair way brings a lot of confidence, he is very happy with his performance.
I agree with your viewpoint, while we should be protective of our children we should not be over-protective and should teach them the skills that are essential to their future. And in your case that is to teach him to drive a two-wheeler and a car. In my case I pushed my son to go to driving school to learn to drive, he didn't want to learn to drive. Then I pushed him to use my extra car that I had (for free, except he pays insurance and registration) instead of sharing a car with his grandparents like he was doing at first. I think those things are essential for children to become independent adults.
For which they will thank us later, for sure.
Great piece of writing on fatherhood!
Driving in India.... Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh. You guys certainly have a reputation for crazy roads. Saying that, can't say I wouldnt love to drive India in our Series Landie.
Congrats to the boy. Maybe he be safe and come back to you always..
I am sure, you will love to learn that there is no real rule followed :)
I understand your in-laws fears. Even I didn't allowed my husband and not sure if I will my son in the future to drive motorcycle
It feels like, I won't feel at ease, not until they are home
Oh how different things are these days. Also quite a bit different from how they work over here. Especially when you have ebikes now that can go just as fast as the scooters.
That's what it takes to have a strong father because he will also bring up strong children, you are doing well for him by making him strong and he will ever live to appreciate you for giving him strong heart
Life is actually like that sometimes. You don't necessarily get to win every single time. Life sometimes offer to us what we even least expect
Congratulations to him and for you teaching him not to be fearful of driving.
I learned the hard way when one of my kids said she was going to disown me. Since then, I became a gentle and non overprotective parent
It’s funny how I have never gone for a driving test even though I’m a perfect driver
Congrats to your child. Teaching real life skills like driving is such an important milestone,well done on guiding them through it.
That's very true, sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. That's the lesson that parents should teach their children so they understand from a young age that they must fight to achieve their dreams.
The role of parents is to accompany their children until they can fend for themselves. It's impressive that only two people managed to pass the driving test for both cars and motorcycles. I imagine how proud my friend must be to see his son succeed in whatever he sets his mind to
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Well, you now have a driver. Actually, at that age, boys love to drive in our country.
Drivers here in the Philippines can be so reckless. That's one of my fears even I'm very careful.
Thank you so much.
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