In order to get others to like us there has to be a win-win relationship between the two parties, i.e. there has to be a mutual interest between the parties involved and sincerity must also prevail.
When I say that when we look for a way to please another person, and that this communication must be effective for both parties to win, it is because this way of attracting attention must give results for both the person who shows interest and the person who is receiving the attention, and in this way both parties will receive mutual benefits.
Based on the generalized criteria of the need that anyone may have to please others, I will analyze the six ways to please others:
Take a sincere interest in others
Being sincerely interested in others implies being able to take actions that lead us to show an interest in another person that goes beyond any word we can say, for example when we meet a person and express a slight smile and tell him/her how much his/her presence makes us happy and how happy we are to see him/her, we will surely reap a good friendship that with the passing of time can turn into a sincere and loyal friendship.
To understand the importance that this has in us humans, let's take the example of the way we react when a dog is so happy to see us that they look for all the possible ways to express it, that in the end we humans the only reaction we have is to be happy and accept that joy with a pleasant correspondence of love and affection towards the dog.
For this part it is also understandable that many think that not all the time we have the courage to please the others, and that if we do it perhaps it seems something hypocritical on our part, nevertheless always it is going to exist that possibility of being able to carry out certain small things that will make us happy, for it we can take advantage of our solitude and personal intimacy to laugh alone, or to carry out any thing that contributes to an action that stimulates us to be happy, since at the end it is that happiness so wished the one that will take us to approach the others and to please him in the most sincere form.
Any action that we take to reach the so longed for feeling of happiness will make us understand that the action and the feeling go in the same way therefore, in the moment that we decide to show happiness in that same moment we will surely please the others.
Smile
The action of expressing a slight smile does not take as much effort on the part of the one who tells you to smile to express a certain pleasure on the part of another person, however, even though it is not a gesture that demands so much energy and complexity if it has a lot of value to be influential and to please another person.
We can conclude that a smile doesn't cost us anything, but it does have a lot of value and high impact in order to have an influence on making others happy.
Remember that for every person, their name is the sweetest and most important sound in any language
Certainly at this point I share this initiative of calling people by their name, particularly when people call me by my name and do so with great respect I feel that I prevail under a perspective that is important to the person who calls me by my name.
At the same time I think that if this happens with me, it is because there is certainly nothing more satisfying for interpersonal relationships than calling people by their name that will inspire respect and admiration among the parties involved.
You imagine two great leaders engaging in conversation and calling each other by nicknames, not true, certainly it is something that would rarely or never occur under a certain degree of formality, well we should maintain that degree of respect and call people by their name, this will encourage respect and in the end we will end up attracting the taste of others to ourselves.
Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves
Being a good listener is a less complex way to become a good speaker, every time we listen carefully to another person we can engage in a conversation that is not out of place, and this is thanks to listening correctly to what we are told, however being a good listener has other important connotations besides becoming a good speaker, and it is the fact that when we listen to another person we may be solving a problem and this will call the attention of this person, when someone has a problem does not care more than being heard.
Always talk about what interests others
Let's imagine for a moment to want to call the attention of someone talking about things that are not of interest, certainly if we do this we will lose completely the interest of that person, on the contrary if we want to catch the attention of someone, the most adaptable strategy is to talk about a topic that is of interest, this will quickly call your attention and surely be very pleased with our presence.
Make the other person feel important and do it honestly
The first thing we need to know is that all of us fulfill different objectives while living, which makes us all important in one way or another.
Many times we do not see directly where is the importance of having another person, but this happens because we have not really sought well the virtues of that person, once we have achieved the virtues of that person is very important to let them know, all people like someone else to tell them how important it is for their life, if we want to call someone's attention is very important to let him know how important that person is for our own interests.
Greetings, friend @ carlos84, your analysis is very interested, since as a person we are always unaware of the lives of others, we have to break that to say, because we cannot do everything alone in life, but reflecting on it is important.
Excellent complement that you find in the analysis of this reading, very important your contribution my dear friend @newton666. Greetings
Certainly @rbalzan79 are six ways to please others and have a positive influence on people. Greetings and thanks for commenting
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Greetings @carlos84, through your publication I could remember how important the small details are. To be kind, to be courteous, to be attentive, should be the principles that move a society as changeable as the one we have today. Congratulations on your publication and we continue reading.
As you say friend @madridbg, they are small details, but if they are fulfilled they can benefit us a lot, greetings and thanks for commenting.
Good article, always nice to talk to people who listen and for many people is an escape valve to their problems or as they say "mental air
Hello @trabajosdelsiglo.
Great to talk to a person who listens and tries to understand you, greetings and thanks for commenting on this post.
Greetings friend @ carlos84 . It is always a pleasure for me to visit your blog and appreciate your articles, in these six ways that can be effective in making many people happy by putting them into practice. Very good analysis thanks for sharing it.
Certainly @sandracarrascal, the good thing of the case is that we put them in practice, greetings and thanks for your assessment.