One very important thing that builds and strengthens any relationship is trust. However, trust is not a virtue that is gifted, it is built over time by being transparently honest and open with one another. There is no doubt that there are things you will need to keep from other people but when it comes to the person you are in a serious relationship with, it always pays to be as open as you can.
Imagine how you will feel when you get to hear a major secret about your partner from outside and they never cared to tell you about it for the long period you have been in the relationship with them. When you consider this, then you will know that it is not worth the relationship. For someone that constantly keeps unnecessarily small secrets, you will be surprised the large ones they are already keeping from you.
A particular friend of mine was in a relationship with a lady. They first met in a friends birthday party and they got attracted to each other. They exchanged contacts and that was how they started talking. What started like a joke and like a normal friendship became a very serious relationship that even both parents already know about each other. The guy knew the lady's siblings including the little girl that she was staying with.
The little girl called her "sister" and all he thought that she was the least of her siblings until one day, he got to know that the girl was her daughter that she had while in college. The guy was disappointed that she could hide something like this from him all these while. I mean, if she could hide this, he might not know what else she might be hiding too. It would have been better she told him all these while and it would not have changed anything because the guy loved the girl very well, but now, he already has a double mind about her.
You see, there are secrets that are not worth keeping at all because they will still come out and they will make a mess of the person's whole relationship. To build up trust in the heart of your partner, it will take time and will take work. However, the trust can be crashed by a seemingly harmless act of misdeeds.
It is always worth it to be open to your partner because that is why it is called "relationship". If you give your partner the room to start suspecting that you have secrets you are keeping, they may lose trust in you and it may crack the walls of the relationship.
The truth may not be too convenient in some cases but it is always better for it to be said, at least for the sake of the future of your relationship. There are some people that trust their partners with their whole being that they can go any length to defend that trust. This is as a result of constantly doing what will build trust in the heart of your partner. Here is a parting advice; "if you want absolute trust, then you have to earn it".
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The danger is life risking haha
Lol, sure it is. I agree with you here :)
yeah lol especially toxic women
Although, I believe that some secrets are better left undisclosed. But with a very close partner, you share as much as needs to be shared. You don't want to lose the spark of a little mystery. Many relationships break up, because the other partner has seen through you completely. But it's always better to open secrets that could specifically harm the relationship in the future. It's a really lovely read. Thanks for sharing!
That's right. I agree with your point of view. Secrets that can potentially harm the relationship is not worth keeping at all. Thanks a lot buddy
Some keep those secrets because they don't trust their partners enough or because they are scared of loosing them. Either way, no matter the secret it's important that you let it out soon so you don't waste time. Their reaction may even reveal a side about them which you never knew existed. Nice read
I absolutely agree with you here buddy, but whatever the case may be, the person should ask themselves if keeping the secret is worth their relationship.
Thanks a lot buddy
Hi @samminator
In Venezuela, this statement is very popular: "Lies have short legs", which speaks for itself.
Excellent reflection, thank you for sharing.
Have a great day!
Regards.
I love this particular quote from Venezuela. Indeed, "lies have short legs" and are often short-lived. Thanks a lot for the comment friend
Hi @samminator, trust is the basis of all relationships.
Trust is won with actions, with honesty.
Thanks for sharing this story.
Regards
Absolutely correct, it is actions that will win the person's trust. Thanks a lot buddy
Hello friend @samminator
I agree with you "trust is not a virtue that is given away, it is built over time by being transparently honest and open with each other", too bad that there are some people who are not transparent, and this kind of behavior in a way weaken trust, however, in a relationship the ideal for the health of the relationship is that the trust prevails.
Best regards, be well.
That's right, trust should prevail for the sake of the health of the relationship.
Thanks a lot for the nice comment buddy @lupafilotaxia
Undoubtedly, a relationship is based on trust and secrets break it, but there is a time for everything. Couples get to know each other in the future, with the daily sharing, and the precise moments of sharing something that happened in the past appear, because if you tell your girlfriend everything you have done in life, you will lose the charm of her getting to know you.
That's right, there is always a right time for it. I absolutely agree with you here.
Thanks a lot for the nice comment buddy
No doubt my friend, a serious relationship is based on trust, and this is not only given just because, it is built by knowing every aspect of the other's life, you can not maintain a healthy relationship if one of the people decides to tell half-truths or adjust them to your convenience, when they are discovered is worse for the relationship than if it had been sincere. As they say, a bitter truth is better than a sweet lie.
Nice comment. We should endeavour to maintain trust in our relationship so as to make it healthy. Meanwhile, I love the last phrase of your comment. Thanks buddy
Hello friend @samminator.
As usual another great post that you share with us on this occasion, you are absolutely right when you express the following:
Here is the key to success in any type of relationship whether in the field of love, family or work, thanks friend for always sharing extraordinary content with all of us, many successes for you and your family. Best regards.
Thanks a lot for the comment. Yes, trust is very important for any relationship to be healthy and to thrive well.
Cheers buddy