Marriage is created to be for better, for worse, and truly, that is how it should be, if the marriage is healthy, loving, and both partners can endure each other with understanding. A good marriage feels like peace, but a bad marriage feels like hell, and nobody wants to live in hell.
When two people genuinely love each other, they can endure challenges, forgive mistakes, and grow together. That kind of marriage can survive both the “better” and the “worse.” But when a marriage becomes toxic, harmful, or built on lies, then staying becomes a burden no one deserves to carry.
Today, we have seen many people go into marriage for the wrong reasons. Some people marry just to dupe their partners. A man can marry a woman simply because she is rich, and a woman can marry a man because of his wealth. When the person being deceived eventually discovers the truth, that there was no love at all and that the marriage was built on lies, that alone is enough reason to end the marriage. Love cannot grow on deceit.
Another “worse” that should never be tolerated is domestic violence. That is the worst of all. I will never advise any woman or man to remain in a marriage where they are being abused physically, emotionally, or mentally. For better, for worse does not mean someone should lose their life or sanity. Once violence enters a home, safety becomes more important than vows.
Cheating is another valid reason to leave. Even the Bible talks about this. Infidelity destroys trust, breaks the heart, and can even expose a partner to diseases. If someone cheats repeatedly with no remorse, it shows disrespect for the marriage and is a strong enough reason to walk away. Faithfulness is part of love, and when it is gone, the relationship is already deeply damaged.
There is also this new trend where a woman gives another man’s child to her husband without his knowledge. If a man discovers that the child he has been raising is not his, the shock and betrayal can break the marriage completely. It is not just a mistake, it is a deep level of dishonesty. That alone can be enough reason to end a marriage.
For better, for worse does not mean that one partner should suffer endlessly or die in the process. Marriage was never designed to bring harm. If a marriage becomes unbearable, filled with lies, violence, cheating, or deep emotional damage, then divorce is not a failure; it is a necessary escape.
Marriage should be a place of love, trust, and safety, not a battlefield where one partner destroys the other.The “worse” in marriage should be challenges two people face together, not situations that destroy one person.
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For better for worse is a statement said to couples to remind them to still love each other in trying times, when things aren't all that rosy and romantic; it might be health, finance,etc. The need to still be strong together, expressing love to each other in trying times.
It has never meant to suffer in marriage, it has never meant to become a slave, a punching bag, an atm machine in a marriage. Once trust, honesty, transparency and every or any human right has been violated, then it has gone beyond worse. It should be called off.
Indeed marriage is for better for worse. Thanks for sharing