There's a place we all blame. Especially those of us who are sensitive and may be concerned.
One situation where we are particularly prone to guilt is pain, whether it's pain or depression or anxiety, or due to relationship breakdown or delayed emotional development. When we are at our weakest point, we are too easily between injustice and guilt.
Victims and survivors are inherently prone to feelings of guilt, which paradoxically is the last thing they need to hear.
The problem with medium and long-term suffering is that we can develop a model of learned guilt in which we polarize into the negative spaces of thought and feelings that produce iterations of complicated guilt.
It is not so easy to identify or correct. It becomes complex and cloudy.
Yet resolving feelings of guilt is one of the great opportunities for suffering. For many of us, being exposed to the guilt that none of us appreciate is to force our hand. We are encouraged to learn to reconcile this type of harmful thinking, which can easily become corrosive or even toxic.
The connection of this idea in terms of learning the role of guilt in our lives is consciousness.
If we are only aware that we feel guilty, for whatever reason, we can ask ourselves whether or not it is an appropriate emotional response. If we decide that this is not an appropriate emotional response, then we will resort to measures that are available to us.
We can decide it's time to relax a little.
We can decide that the guilt we feel is appropriately attracted to a kind of divine pain that will reveal that we deepen with God in him.
We can decide that someone or something is behind this inappropriate recrimination. We may have to change the balance in the relationship.
How sorry we are, and especially with what we feel, we are invited to respond.
And we can respond by allowing our choice. Guilt wants us to be connected, to do things out of duty rather than devotion. It takes us away from the implicit joy of feeling spiritually free.
We can choose to do our things out of devotion, not out of duty.
If we see that guilt matters much more than we do comfortably, we can change. After realizing the extent of the blame, its dynamics in us, and the ease with which we live it, it turns to the mind, and we can decide whether to give it permission or not.
If we don't need it, we can do something about it.
we not perfect and we all have some kind quilt and hard to forgive you self and go on and be better. I am not one to know what am talking about . but it hard when one feels guilty for things they never should and it happens. I have to say I get defend by others who say sorry - for things that could have said. excuse me, pardon me etc. or are sorry for what they are. That is very sad. I am guilty of that .
Thank you for the valuable input.
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