Making friends is hard, especially if you are an introvert. People are complicated. Communication is difficult. It’s nice to “win friends and influence people” but sometimes it’s a big enough challenge just getting along and avoiding conflict.
I always do my best to think positively about others. It doesn’t mean I think they are perfect. They are usually far from it. But that’s ok....I can still find common ground and get along with them.
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I must agree with you my friend,making friends is really hard especially for introverts, I mean, an introvert literally stays indoors all the time, where would he/she even people to make friends
I would also that, introvert is not good. Being indoor all the time will not help you. When you associate with others you will get to know hidden things you did not know. Extrovert is better but you have to be careful. Thanks for this piece.
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Self-Help for Trolls: Finding the Positive in Others
In this insightful reflection, the speaker shares their personal journey of moving away from a negative, critical mindset towards a more positive and constructive approach to interacting with others.
The Shift from Negativity to Positivity
The speaker acknowledges that in their younger days, they would often focus on the flaws and shortcomings of those around them, seeing how others were "making their life worse." This negative lens was an "easy way to go about living life," as it's natural for people to notice the bad rather than the good in one another. However, the speaker realized this was an unhealthy perspective that robbed them of peace of mind. They made a conscious decision to instead seek out the positive aspects in people, recognizing that "not everything sucks" and that there is much good in the world that often goes unnoticed.
Building Connections through Common Ground
The speaker now makes an effort to find common ground and points of connection when meeting new people, rather than dwelling on differences. They avoid immediately sharing their strongest views on divisive topics, especially with those they know may have opposing beliefs. Instead, the focus is on building rapport through shared interests, experiences or even just casual conversation. The speaker understands that people are often not ready to have deep, philosophical discussions about complex issues, and that it's better to start with more lighthearted interactions.
Embracing Diversity and Avoiding Judgment
The speaker emphasizes the importance of seeing people as individuals, rather than making assumptions based on their background or appearance. They make a conscious effort to learn about cultures and countries they are unfamiliar with, rather than relying on stereotypes. The speaker also reflects on how they used to be offended by seemingly innocuous questions, like how to use chopsticks, realizing that most people are simply trying to make polite conversation.
Choosing Battles and Maintaining Perspective
The speaker acknowledges that there are times when serious, values-based discussions are warranted, especially with friends who are genuinely seeking self-improvement. However, they caution against constantly trying to "police" or correct the behavior of others, recognizing that one's own perspective may not always be entirely correct. The focus should be on finding common ground and building understanding, rather than confrontation.
In conclusion, the speaker's advice is to make a conscious effort to seek out the positive in others, avoid judgment, and focus on building connections through shared experiences and interests. This approach, they believe, can lead to greater personal happiness and more fulfilling interactions with those around us.