I have never been a zombie, I don't mean by dying and being brought back to life. I mean to be living my life on autopilot.
Constantly and diligently doing the right thing. Until I would put myself in a box of cubicles where my soul could die a slow death.
Growing up, I saw so many people living life this way and I never wanted to be like them.
They may seem happy and fulfilling on the outside but deep down when you go close to them they are dying slowly on the inside. They are too comfortable with the norms, too scared to dream, and too afraid of changes.
In my early twenties, everyone around me had expected me to be married, not because I was ready for it or found the right partner but because that was what almost all the girls around my age were doing, so why should I be the only one to be different? so they thought.
But at that time I knew if I joined the crowds, my marital life could be a disaster even before it got started so I kept searching for myself, working on my dreams, and what I wanted for myself until I was ready. Even though I got married in my early thirties I am glad I held on back regardless of what everyone else had wanted from me.
My life is not determined by my circumstances but by the decisions I made. Every day I'm constantly choosing to live an amazing life and
Living an amazing life doesn't have to be so complicated. Here are a few ways of spicing up my life and getting the best out of my circumstances.
Visiting the dream room as much as I can
I once read a story of a successful businessman, who has different rooms for his team.
The dream room; This is where the magic happens, in this room, each of the team members is allowed to dive into their very deep fantasy, to dream and bring out their best ideas. .
And then the critical room; where they table out all their dreams, strategize about how to make things happen, and figure out all the things that could go wrong with their plans. Then move to the implementation room where their plans are actualized.
But it seems a lot of people are stuck in their critical rooms most of the time. By letting that little voice of this can't be done get into their head and let fear take over the steps they need to take to actualize their dreams.
I visit my dream room very often, to keep them alive and I'm being careful of my thoughts in my critical room.
Letting fear be my motivator
Whenever I wanted to take the easy path, like going constantly for unhealthy junk easy-to-come-by food instead of taking some time to prepare myself a healthy meal. The fear of the health implications of such food options will make me think twice and go for healthy meal options. The fear of living an unhappy life if I don't follow and pursue my dreams, the fear of regrets creeping in in the long run if I don't give life my best shot keeps me on the right track and I keep on striving to do my best.
Living by my value
If I should start a new relationship with a person, who seems nice but my gut tells me something is off about them or I wanted to pursue a business but something doesn't feel right about it.
I will sit down and check my core values and then compare them with those of the person or that thing and at the end, if their value is not aligned with mine, that is it. The red flag I'm looking for, and sign telling me not to pursue whatever it is I want with the person or the business. Practicing this has saved me from many fruitless ventures.
Finding true connections instead of perfections
I have never tried to be a perfect businesswoman, a perfect mom, or a perfect partner but instead, I'm embracing every flaw, enjoying the process and every moment, and creating the best memories as much as I can.
I'm choosing my path and working doggedly towards it. I may not be there yet but my life is already more than amazing. I'm already living some of the life I dreamed of while working towards the rest.
My choices are aligned with my values and goals and that is what makes my life amazing.
This has come to influence my daily activities. I don't have a template for what I do. Any activity that aligns with my goals at any point in time is what I do. A scale of preference comes into play. This makes my approach spontaneous. I enjoy the spontaneity a lot. Each day is unique in my life as a mother. My interests, values, and plans to be executed on a particular, dictate my sequence of activities for that day.
This is beautiful and inspiring. I congratulate you for not allowing the norm in society to influence how you live your life. Thanks for sharing your approach to living an amazing life.
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Thank you very much and I'm glad you found my piece inspiring.
I wish you a great day at your end.
It is, thank you. Happy day to you :)
I have seen that, even when I am living in a room, there's a room, I need to have and that's the dream room, I have seen the relevance I will get when I visit this room more often, thanks for sharing dear friend.
I'm glad to share, thank you for stopping by.🥰😊
Thank you very much, HN🙏🙏