and as she grows older, she just seems to be molding more and more to this bland template of "adults".
What a bummer for her. It sounds like she thinks she's a lot older than she actually is. I'm glad you are able to differentiate yourself from that.
The older I get, the more I have come to realize that there's no actual adulthood, there's just being older than I was before. Granted, there are obvious distinctions between a baby in diapers, a toddler, a tween, a teen, and so forth, and there's a certain point at which we are expected to be relatively self-sufficient. But the idea that there is a cutoff for doing fun, creative things with one's life or one's body after only, what, two decades, when we're expected to live at least 80??
Booooorrrriiiiiiing.
Also, you can get protein treatments and all kinds of cool hair masks and shampoos and conditioners for bleached hair that repair a lot of the damage. And DIY hair jobs tend to turn out just fine if you read the instructions and have some artistic sense, which you clearly do.
<3 Yes! Incidentally, I find the people who live creative lives true to themselves mind aging a whole lot less than these boring people. I guess it's 'cause life's just passing them slowly by.
Thank you!! I know a lot of people (like this girl) who wouldn't dream of doing anything DIY. "Trust the professionals!!" type mentality. I've never had a professional dye my hair, and ain't about to start now.
Funny story, I went out last night to get a bleaching kit and ran into this 75-year-old lady at the store (buying the same thing). I chatted with her for a bit, and she was like "why the hell would I pay $100 when I can do it perfectly fine myself?!". Talk about youth being a mentality!!
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In defense of the stylists, I've had my hair done professionally before, and I definitely do see a difference. Also much less work on my end. But definitely not one of those "trust the professionals" situations, I prefer to save that mentality for electricians and computer-fixer-people (I can't remember what they're called!!!).