There is no manual, nor time-span, for ones own mourning proces, I think. Especially when it concerns the loss of a very dear one. Sometimes it can actually help to stay sane by picking up all kinds of tasks. It can be a lot to take in at once. And then there's all these special occasion days that rip open the slowly healing wound, or at least cause hurt.
My Dad has been gone out off time for more than 16 years now. And I can state that things do change over time, where those gone out off time will live on in heart and memories for ever.
It is a nice personal salute to the loving memory of your Dad, writing, telling stories, making jokes and also drinking rum. That way I created a few rituals to remember mine by. As a way to salute him. And now and then I talk with him in my mind, as I know how he would answer. It all adds to a personal way to let the wound heal and keep the good memories.
Cheers Mate, hope the hangover ain't too bad.
Ha, cheers for your kind words mate. The hangover was brutal. It was a doozy in fact. Ouchy!
I do feel quite good now though. It was nice to remember him in that way and it will be a nice ritual to have I think
You're welcome mate.
Considering the 40%, it had to be an outstanding kind of a hangover.
Glad to know you feel better. And I can understand that it is nice to have such a ritual to remember your father by.
Every year I go on a bicycle tour, as part of a remembrance ritual. When I'm in the village of Grolloo, I'll drink one or two beers as a salute to my Dad and then get back home. It does feel good that way.
I totally get that, I don't think I would have before but it seems important and it is a thing of comfort. Your's sounds a bit better than one though. Maybe I will have to jazz mine up and go somewhere rather than rolling about my back garden shouting at the sky, LOL!
Mine took its form over time. It is a 45 Km trip. The beer tastes really good after that. Going back the same 45, after that, is a real pain... But worth it every time.
The rolling about shouting you did sounds like the start of a valuable remembrance ritual that can be extended very well in the years to come. :-)