having children ist not about money or time, is what I learned.
It's wanting to father or mother younger ones, it's a generational thing and an order of life. If you're having a gift or a talent you want to show to younger people, you needn't to be a parent necessarily but could also be a role model for nephews/nieces or neighbor kids etc. It's about wanting to have to do with different generations. The young learn from the older and vice versa. To come into touch with different age groups brings variety and abundance to ones life.
Doing that with own children is a bit easier because you are more forced into this system of different people. A reason for children is maturation of the self. Nowadays it's harder to mature and the children have a much more difficult role when they get immature parents who must learn to become adults through parenthood. But it's the way it is.
I haven't known this but now it has become obvious for me.
If you do have an urge towards wanting to give something of you, you should start from where you are. No matter if with own kids or kids from other people.
I agree. However, I think you underestimate the power of money; it can tear down families and relationships in the blink of an eye. Perhaps this is a difference in our cultures. You are obviously fron Germany but I am from New York City.
I appreciate your insight.
I am very realistic about money. As I know that many people actually cannot handle money (once it's in their hands and a lot of it).
I choose not to lure myself and earn little. It was a free choice of mine. So it doesn't bind my time. I am only working about 17 hours a week. When you want to earn more you must put a lot of more time and energy into it. There is no independence in financial success. If you want to stay financially successful it'll eat up most of the energy. When money is the driving force it will drive you. What other people do is none of my business:)
If they decide on destroying relationships, they just take the money to blame. It's neither the money nor the materialistic matters which tear down families. It's the worries.
New York seems to be a tough environment. What does support you for your own well being? Where do you get orientation?