The problem with feminism seems to be that the ideologues who spew this drivel have little to no understanding of womanhood. Feminism is but a mere attempt at grasping power by competing with men, in the field of male speciality. An idea that seek to transform a woman into a perversion of man by adopting manhood and rejecting womanhood is toxic to both men and women. It is akin to Orientals and Hispanics attempting to compete with Africans and Europeans in the field of physical prowess by enhancing their physical limitations via artificial means.
The concept of "equality" is quite pernicious. Equality lies at the foundation of industrialization and centralization. The ledger system cannot operate in the reality of inequality; it can only function under the assumption and premise that creation is equal, or rather hold equal value. Any child will instinctively comprehend that no two trees are equal, no two dogs of equal quality, and no two humans are equal in capacity. In the mechanical cog of central bureaucracy, and later industrial factories, reality operates in opposition to their vision of replaceable cogs and simplified ledgers. By assigning equality to man and woman, under arbitrary criterion, the state, and later the mercantile consortium, can more efficiently ledgerise humanity as tools and commodities to be leveraged.
I think there are a lot of people who see exactly what you're describing. We are sensitive beings and notice quite quickly when someone wants to sell us a "U" for an "A". But if we also enter into such a swindle, because we lack the courage to admit our own absence, because we bought it after all, it doesn't help to point to others.
Just the other day I had a conversation about a man being persuaded by a woman to father a child and then wondering how it could happen that everything went terribly wrong. He will have known right at the beginning that nothing and nobody can persuade him to do anything that he himself does not really want. We all have this sense and this form of attention within us. We need to awaken it and encourage people with whom we come into contact to use their lie detector. Everyone has one, just like the children you mentioned. I could also say intuition. Do you have an example for me in which your intuition guided you correctly? Where did you prevent a stupidity that you were about to do?
Or what situation did you get out of because you realized that fighting or conflict intensification is the wrong way?