The game of 'ifs' is a little perplexing. On one hand it serves no purpose or shed mostly casts a shadow of doubt even on positive scenarios. On the other hand there is no escaping our own human nature and avoid asking these questions.
Thankfully the dilemma is more than resolved for a person who sticks to the long term plan and has enough creativity to maneuver around the minor obstacles. I have seen this in you, when I saw you daughters @smallsteps account. It is one of the most creative future insurance strategy for children that I have seen.
PS: Glad to see your families getting to know each other. Hopefully more opportunities will come along. sooner rather than later :-)