This blogosphere can be a strange place.
If someone has an argument with someone in real life, it can lead to verbal or even physical altercations. One argues, but at some point one breaks up because the argument cannot last forever. If one is in an intimate relationship, one separates and goes their way as far as no conflict resolution is accepted. If one quarrels with strangers, there is no such relationship and one does not really care.
If there is a dispute about a business matter and one cannot avoid it, for example, the exchange of verbalities is also over at some point and one goes the legal way or leaves it. Depending on what chances one fancies.
This blogosphere, because of its otherness, is like another dimension
in which neither intimate nor business relationships take sharp and clear place, it lacks commitment in the same way it is demanding it and does not integrate itself into the personal local background life of the blogger. The absence of intimate relationships, just like the indeterminacy of the business relationship between blogger and blogger (who can also be crypto-speculators), creates a gap that does not exist outside this sphere.
When I accept or place an order, I do so either with a handshake or a contract.
If I buy something, there are general terms and conditions or a contract of sale, if I have an intimate relationship, then there are certain accepted rules between the parties involved and if they are violated, one suffers immediate personal consequences. Here it is different.
My view of things is that if I am subjected to insults, for example, I can ask myself whether they are damaging my business, if I am running one. However, if I do not run a real business (with a legal form, registration in the commercial register, general terms and conditions, running costs and income, walk-in customers and loyal customers, etc.) I can ask myself what it is that I am actually running.
I personally find this question difficult to answer and have not arrived at a firm one.
But one thing I can say is that I am not running a business with my blog, it is rather undefined, on the one hand a pastime (for the most part), on the other hand a kind of training ground in written argumentation. If I decide to take a blogging break, I don't have to find a replacement for myself, nor pay attention to running costs, nor inform anyone. There are no consequences, so apparently it's not a business. On the other hand, it's not an intimate space either, because this requires physical presence.
The most appropriate analogy for me is that of a casino.
I gamble with little or a lot of chips, I wander through the halls and see other players.
Probably the strongest selling point/marketing of this sphere is the subjunctive.
I "could make a buck" or it "could become my daily business one day", it "could fulfill my desires", etc. For few this is true, even if the advertising says otherwise. Thats the nature of advertisement.
If I made my entire living from blogging, I'd probably wish others saw it that way too. But the thing is that this sphere is a matter of definition for the individual and the other individual can be on a completely different level than myself. It can be a hobby or less than or very much more than that.
One could also look at the sphere here with an anarchist eye,
because the rules are unclear and still want to be found, it seems. In my view, what speaks against this is that anarchism exists without written rules, only with the most universal principles known by everyone (therefore do not need to be debated).
For me, anarchism is confused with "everyone can do, leave and say what they want". But where this takes place, it is not anarchism, but rather something like pressure of opinion and action-taking. Opinions create separate camps and whoever does not want to be assigned to one most likely faces disloyalty, because without belonging to a group/opinion/action one seems unavailable to the respective opposite poles.
The indifferent human (here blogger) is therefore uninteresting for opposing groups because there is no clear pro or contra interest that can be used for the groups purposes.
Depending on mood, I can observe the other players, post, interject my comments, put a dispute on hold like in a freezer and when I feel like it, I open the lid and throw myself back in. I can do it with a grudge, a laughing eye, a philosophical or psychological approach. It's my decision. The blogosphere and other media bulletin boards are chatty spheres because there is no closing time or sign on the shop indicating "closed".
When in real life I want to go back to a dispute and I find the place/person closed, there is a good chance that I might cool off and finally shrug shoulders.
To find people and places unavailable is a good thing in my eyes. It forces me without active force to go along and get along. I could look at myself and decide to just close off and let the grudges of others bounce off. If I am determined to get compensation for either an insult or loss of profit, I can expect being ridiculed in the open as far as I stick to verbal insults from my side as a reaction to verbal insults from others.
In my view, people hang around for lack of real, intimate or business relationships.
Online encounters are mistaken for friendship or enmity that has not been adequately lived out or expressed elsewhere. I think that this digital illusion of being a place of community or discord is a strong effort to compensate loneliness. It can be instructive if you want it to be, but it can also be a never-ending ordeal. The pitcher of water goes to the well until it breaks is not something that applies in the digital space.
Here, everything can be illusion and is therefore the most accurate realization one can have of another.
Indeed, it is often and fiercely voiced, but it applies to oneself as much as to the others one accuses of it.
For that very reason, I have some difficulties to take the open fights too seriously.
I actually do think that the fighters don't take the battles very seriously themselves. If they did, the effort to get along and to come to terms with each other would be clearer to see and the tone would change from aggressive and insulting to a more polite or relaxed one. When people realize that they depend on each other and alternatives are rare or difficult to reach, they tend to become reasonable at some point and make an agreement.
When it does not happen this way, my impression is that this place is just taken as a dumpster for all the shitty thoughts and miserable emotions one holds for whatever reason and it's easy to do so.
"Not expressing an opinion" would probably be an aspect to emphasise.
From my point of view, more valuable than having to have an opinion. I see the inflationary use of freedom of expression as being turned on its head and twisted into something where it seems inappropriate not to have an opinion but to remain indifferent.
Funnily enough, this seems to me to require more of a defence than the freedom to say what I want. Because I can do that here in this sphere and it is difficult to want to prevent me from doing so. Though not impossible.
Indifference, on the other hand, seems to be a bad thing? An affront? It offers little security to the other, doesn't it?
One wants to know where to place you, how to classify you. But if you don't do justice to this, instead of creating trust, it seems to have the opposite effect. Personally, I find this disconcerting, because I tend to trust people who hold back opinions, thereby offering little drama and room for attack, rather than those who take a hard line.
I may think of my thoughts as noble and reasonable.
But I could be wrong. Most likely I am neither the good person I think I am but also not the loser I also think I am. Probably I don't know myself so well as I would like to. HaHa!!
Have a friendly day.
Title: made by me.
It is difficult to find intimate relationships filled with sincerity and tolerance, because no matter how great the degree of respect and appreciation is, its inclusion within the framework of interests and laws spoils it in all respects.
I would say it's almost impossible to become intimate in this sphere. The intimacy can be verbal and one can find pen pals and have interesting conversations. In terms of business, I find, it's a tough place, but that is just my subjective impression.
Where are you from, may I ask?
Sometimes we need something to forget our conflicts with others, so blogging is an excellent way to review mistakes and why not forgive.
Yes, it serves me as some form of diary to go back and read some of my reflections and also the comments.
For me personally, it's not so much about forgetting but more about digging deeper into what is called "the inner world".
Hello my friend @erh.germany,
I enjoyed this article very much, you have a deeply philosophical mind which helps people view things from many different perspectives.
I find Hive to be an interesting social experiment, one which provides different purposes for different kinds of people. Oddly it's a very small number of people in comparison to mainstream outlets and this adds to its mysteriousness if I'm to freely express my opinion here :D
If we are to stay completely within the confines of Hive and Hive alone, then the possibility for intimate online relationships is pretty limited in my view, and intimate might even be perceived differently by some, but in my perspective, I think the meaning is close personal relationships which can be compared to real life flesh and blood relationships.
Discord has been a major background service which has no ties to the Hive blockchain as far as I know, but has been like an integral third party tool to help with business models and management.
The integration cannot be completely dismissed in my opinion, because it heavily influences a great deal of what happens on Hive.
Many of the communities on here have discord communities with voice shows and even video broadcasts with people spending large quantities of time through digital interface with one another. Some of the broadcasts might be for an audience, some are one on one. For business models and personal friends projected through a digital interface, this is as close to intimate relationships as we're going to get here (for now), and perhaps some people have some very intimate/close friendships that they cherish deeply but have never even met the other party in real life before.
But things also suddenly skew through text due to misinterpreted inflection and/or plans of one or more parties change, commitments change, etc, and then one or more parties may find themselves deeply disappointed, angry, sad, etc, all because of investment of self, through a digital interface.
The online world seems to change so rapidly day to day that it's hard to keep up with everything, it's very understandable that breaks may be needed, reassessment of what matters here, and how much time should be invested, and when, etc.
I could go on for hours talking about this I think, but then I might be investing too much of myself unless I just change my perception to feel like it doesn't matter either way :D
I hope I addressed some points here in a resonating fashion. For me this place has helped me reinforce positive change in my life, and I've met some really nice people like yourself :) and have also had disputes, arguments, friends turn into enemies, enemies turn back into friends, seen weird things, funny things, excellent literature, excellent art in so many forms, etc, yeah Hive is definitely a different kind of place where some really cool internet dwellers dwell in my opinion :D
You could just post your philosophical thoughts whenever the urge comes, no commitments or cares about it, and maybe you will get responses like this once in a while that may or may not make it all worth it :)
No matter what type of content you post, it's always very fascinating, intelligently narrated/written, and the artistic contributions you've shared are also profoundly amazing and enjoyed by the community.
Thank you for the musing 🤗
Oh nooo, I have missed this comment of yours entirely. So sorry about that. I will read it again in more depth and come back to you.
You are right. It depends really on how detached I become using this sphere for myself and avoid being too entangled in the conflicts I observe. I think it really is better to cook my own soup, write about things which interest me or reflect what I do outside theory. This may result into a more peaceful and cooperative outcome.
Yes, thank you for reminding me. I must do a better job to find them :)
Thank you for the thoughtful reply.
I feel I should comment further, as your remark here has been tumbling around in my mind in a not so comfortable way.
I want you to know if my comments have not made it abundantly clear, that I not only considered you a friend, but a friend I hold a great deal of respect for and consider to be very creative and intelligent.
To refer to you as such, then read this comment which clearly states you did not feel the same about our friendship leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Perhaps you pretended to be friends with me?
I don't know but I feel compelled to induce a little thought process with you, because you either didn't consider the impact of your words, or you simply do not care and were never forthright about being friends with me.
This is shocking to read.
Or maybe I just took it out of context and you just mean I'm not a cool internet dweller but still your friend?
It was a very brief and "read between the lines" kind of statement was it not?
I wish you the best....friend?
Hey, that leaves me with question marks.
When I wrote that I wasn't referring to you, I've been absent from hive/not very active for a long time and I felt reminded by you that there are some interesting people to be found here and I'd somehow neglected that in the whole debacle about the conflicts here and elsewhere. So I had a little look around and read and commented on some interesting posts.
I think I've told you before that I don't have very much to contribute to your very specific content, which doesn't change how we've met so far. I am therefore irritated by the way you have taken my answer. I thought you were busy and we hadn't talked on Discord for a long time. Which was fine with me, as I let you know.
So no hard feelings.
Wish you the best, my friend.
Hey @erh.germany,
Thank you for the response.
I can see now it was a generalized statement to describe collectively the negative connotation of how you feel regarding acquaintances in the online environment, if it is to be perceived as a negative connotation.
The lack of inflection in text based conversation makes it difficult to perceive meaning sometimes and the more vague the comment, the more easily misperceived it is, at least for me.
In a voice based conversation I probably wouldn't have confused your meaning, not to dismiss my hasty assumption based thinking here; I could have done a better job with my message delivery with less emotion based thinking.
No hard feelings from me either, thank you for addressing me maturely after that immature display from me, apologies my friend.
I'll send you a dm shortly.
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Thanx for your reply, I appreciate it :)
Receiving answers in written language can be quite misleading, yes, it happened to me too.
I am happy that we are alright now and wish you well.
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Dear @erh.germany, we need your help!
The Hivebuzz proposal already got important support from the community. However, it lost its funding a few days ago when the HBD stabilizer proposal rose above it.
May we ask you to support it so our team can continue its work?
You can do it on Peakd, Ecency,
https://peakd.com/me/proposals/199
All votes are helpful and yours will be much appreciated.
Thank you!