Why do children usually bear the brunt of their parents' failed promises and responsibilities?
We cannot dispute that parents at times make mistakes. However, it is their duty to fulfill their responsibilities in order to support and provide their children's necessities.
These are the words that's running over and over again with this little brainy of mine.
Growing up without the support system of the parents who should have the obligations to raise me as their child, makes me wonder how I grew up being discipline and still have the ability to treat other people with respect and being professional. Other might say,"because it is your own will", or "maybe because you grew up with your relatives."
Since I was a child, despite of dreaming to become a police woman, a CEO in a company, or a lawyer, I dreamt of having a complete family. Going home to a house you can call "HOME". Home, where you can say, "Ma, Pa, I'm home!" while wearing a smile with a mix of exhaustion from school works. Yet, I failed to grew up from the dream I wanted to have. Receiving the love I wanted, and care from the people I've been expecting.
It's hard to grew up not having the support of your family. May it wether the financial support, parenthood,and emotional report, makes me wonder if I do really deserve to be here on earth.
It's hard to pretend that everything's okay. Yet, I don't have the courage to tell everyone behind those smiles how hard it is to grew up without them.
I don't know who to blame. I dream of having someone who can support, come to any ocation related to school. Even putting a medal showing support to the achievement that I had. No one was there. And now that I am about to graduate having a degree on college level, I am not expecting from them. It's hard to balance being a working student and a student itself. Knowing that it should be the obligation of parents to provide. Not to generalize everything. But for once, I wanted to experience having someone who seek for a job just to give us the allowance. Someone who can give anything because we have projects to pay. Instead, I and my brother are the one who provides for our parents need.
Sounds unbelievable right? But it happens. Maybe some of you might have wonder if it's true. And yes, I and my brother are the living testament of it.
I am tired. I am weak. And I need someone's support. Someone's presence. Someone who can cheer me up when everything's not fine. Someone who I can run to. Yet, here I am. An independent woman who looks like I don't need someone in my life.
If you are a parent, please put in mind that there is someone who will suffer if you don't do your part. And that is one thing I am quite hesitant in the near future. To have family. Because I don't see myse
lf becoming a responsible parent for my children. I don't want to fail as a parent someday.
First, I want to congratulate you on making it! Very few people in the country, can graduate college or even step into college level due to financial hardships. You are made something that someone from the other side of the screen is proud of 👏👏👏👏.
I know it is hard not getting any support from your support system, we tend to brush off any feelings that we have and then move forward to the next step after. Indeed we are weak but people see us as strong most of the time. If you still have your parents, try to persuade them to attend your graduation rites and say that it is important as it may happen once lang naman.
Being a parent is hard, juggling skeds, finances, mental health, etc but now that I have one I have promised myself that I will not be an absentee if needed.
Thank you @tpkidkai. I'll collect some courage to ask my parent about it. your words gave me reason to try to connect with them in some way. God bless you
Great portrait of a strong, confident woman. Keep it up and let the challenges in life mold you into a much more stronger person, eventually leading into the person that you would want yourself to be.
Advance congratulations to your upcoming graduation! Many more milestones to create. :)
thank you so much @scion02b
Awww, so sad to hear about your story. I hope all is well. Keep going and stay resilient dear. I am proud of you!
thank you so much @pinkchic. it's too heavy and I think somehow through Hive I can lessen up the burden.
We cannot choose the parents that we wanted but it's our choice if we follow their path or not. Congratulations on deciding not to be like your parents. God bless.😊
thank you and God bless @fixyetbroken
You're welcome. 😊
LABAN and FIGHTING!!
u are so right. very well said..
fighting @chinito 🫶🏼