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To end the week by sharing ideas about the relationship between parents and children, this time I want to express what I think about the feeling of obligation that a child may feel in relation to taking care of their parents in the future, when they reach their old age. It's funny to think that life is a cycle, it's a ferris wheel where we start by taking care of our little ones and then in our old age, they take care of us.
Of course, putting this kind of pressure on a child can be completely wrong, but I don't think so, what I think is that the time is right to start talking to them about this and deciding what our future could be like. In my case, at first, my mother is still alive and lives close to me and in my opinion, when the time is right, I want to take care of her as she took care of me, because I think I owe her a debt of gratitude. As much as many people say that she “didn’t do more than she had to”, for me it’s a way of thanking her for everything she went through to give me the best she could.
For my children, as they are still practically children, I don't even have the courage to say these things like, they are obligated to take care of me and their mother in the future or anything like that, because I think it's too early to put such a weight on their shoulders, so I prefer to just live the moments with them, enjoy every second with them and conquer them with love and affection. I discuss some of the sacrifices I make with them, giving them a small idea of what the life of a father and mother is like, that we sometimes stop doing things so that they can do them.
UnsplashWhen they become teenagers or just when they reach adulthood, maybe I will start talking to them about this. I don't want to give the feeling that they are obligated to do this, but I would be very happy if my children took care of me and their mother willingly, with a clean and pure heart, not as a form of debt to be collected, but, for thank you for everything I did for them. As I said in other posts, my relationship with my children is totally different from mine with my mother, while with me, for her it is a form of debt, with my children I want it to be their free will that they decide to take care of their parents.
Of course, it's a long time from now, I don't know how we will be, if our financial condition will be better or worse, or if a serious accident will happen to any of us, there are many variables, but if by chance in the future they don't want to take care me, I'm sure I will be very sad and hurt, but I will also try to understand that they do not have this obligation, after all, my children are not me, each one thinks differently, sees differently depending on their upbringing and situations they go through during their lives, the only thing I can do, as said, is try to win them over with love and affection.
To conclude, this is what I think about this relationship between parents and children, I think that at the end of life, parents deserve that their children take care of them with dignity and affection, as a form of gratitude for everything they did in their first years of life until becoming adults, is a thought I like to have, like a cycle: beginning, middle and end.
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Para finalizar a semana compartilhando ideias sobre a relação pais e filhos, desta vez quero expressar o que penso sobre o sentimento de obrigatoriedade que um filho pode sentir em relação a cuidar de seus pais no futuro, quando estes chegam em sua velhice. É engraçado pensar que a vida é um ciclo, é uma roda gigante onde começamos cuidado de nossos pequenos e depois em nossa velhice, eles que cuidam da gente.
Claro que colocar esse tipo de pressão em um filho pode ser algo totalmente errado, mas eu não penso completamente assim, o que acho é que têm o momento certo para começar a conversar com eles sobre isso e deixar decidido como poderá ser o nosso futuro. No meu caso, a princípio, a minha mãe continua viva e mora perto de mim e na minha opinião, quando chegar o momento certo, quero cuidar dela como ela cuidou de mim, pois acho que tenho uma dívida de gratidão com ela. Por mais que muitos falem que ela “não fez mais que a obrigação”, para mim é uma forma de agradecer por tudo o que ela passou para me dar o melhor possível.
Portando para os meus filhos, como ainda são praticamente crianças, eu não tenho nem coragem de falar essas coisas de que tipo, eles são obrigados a cuidar de mim e de sua mãe no futuro ou qualquer coisa do tipo, pois acho que está cedo demais para colocar um peso desses sobre seus ombros, sendo assim, prefiro apenas viver os momentos com eles, aproveitar cada segundo ao lado deles e conquistá-los com amor e carinho. Alguns sacrifícios que faço comento com eles, já passando uma pequena ideia de como é a vida de um pai e de uma mãe, que deixamos às vezes de fazer as coisas para que eles possam fazer.
UnsplashQuando se tornarem adolescentes ou apenas quando chegarem a fase adulta, talvez eu comece a conversar com eles sobre isso. Não quero passar a sensação de que eles são obrigados a isso, mas ficaria muito feliz se meus filhos cuidassem de mim e de sua mãe de bom agrado, de coração limpo e puro, não como uma forma de dívida a ser cobrada, mas, para agradecer por tudo o que fiz por eles. Como disse em outras postagens, a minha relação com meus filhos é totalmente diferente da minha com a minha mãe, enquanto comigo, para ela é uma forma de dívida, com meus filhos quero que seja de livre arbítrio que decidam cuidar de seus pais.
Claro que daqui para o futuro é muito tempo, não sei como estaremos, se nossa condição financeira será melhor ou pior, ou se algum acidente grave irá acontecer com algum de nós, são muitas variáveis, mas se por acaso no futuro eles não quiserem cuidar de mim, tenho certeza que ficarei muito triste e magoado, mas também tentarei entender que eles não têm essa obrigação, afinal, meus filhos não são eu, cada um pensa diferente, vê diferente conforme a sua criação e situações que passa durante a sua vida, a única coisa que posso fazer, como dito, é tentar conquistá-los com amor e carinho.
Para finalizar é isso que penso sobre essa relação de pais e filhos, acho que no fim da vida os pais merecem que seus filhos cuidem deles com dignidade e afeto, como forma de agradecimento por tudo o que eles fizerem em seus primeiros anos de vida até se tornarem adultos, é um pensamento que gosto de ter, como um ciclo: começo, meio e fim.
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Ya it doesn't make sense to tell them when they are just kids. A more appropriate age like this is good. I think ideally if they see how you take care of your parents, they can kind of get the jist of it. They can learn a lot from just observing and then when u end up having to talk to them about it, they will kind of understand I feel.
This is good. I also feel the same for my mom and i Hope most people are like this too with their parents & grandparents~
By example we can teach our children a lot of things, in fact, by taking care of my mother and my children seeing this, it's very likely that they will learn and understand about all this love and gratitude and so they may take care of me and their mother in the future. In any case, where love is present, everything is better!
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I agree with you, parents deserves to be taken care of by their children but it's should not be something that came out of pressure but love and gratitude. Of a truth, we owe our parents a lot and no matter what we do, we can never repay them enough. But it's unwise for parents to put their hopes in their kids for support when they are old.
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Taking care of your parents when they get older is a way of repaying them for everything they've done and, as you said, we can never repay them enough. My mother helped me so much that the least I can do is take care of her, because she really went through a lot so that I could study and get the things I have today. A big hug!
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You are such a good child, she will never forget you for paying her back in love.
I ma completely greed with your views. Parents do whatever they can to make kids happy so its our moral responsibility to take care of them when they need us.
In a way I agree with you, I think that as a form of gratitude children should take care of their parents, I really expect this from my children for example, but if they say they won't do it, I'll be very sad, but it's a situation I have to experience to understand how I'll react to it.