Home is where love grows. It is a sanctuary where bonds are created, memories are shared and cherished. In the heart of every family, love transcends, guiding us through joy and adversity — Princessbusayo
I was at my CDS (Community Development Service) center a month ago where the woman in charge was taking us to a lecture on the topic, "Types of Counselling Relating to Drug Abuse." She mentioned one of them being "Family Counselling" and she started this story which according to her, was a true life story because the family in question came to them for counselling on their only daughter.
The daughter was the only child in the family and was pampered right from the beginning. She was provided with everything she needed until she got to the university and things changed for her. She started going out to clubs, smoking hard drugs and got addicted in the process. Whenever she was at home, she would pretend to be clean, whereas her parents were always fighting and would sit down while watching them.
At the end of the day, something led to another and they saw loads of marijuana and cigarettes in her bags. After investigation, they found out that the girl was a drug lord on campus who would always pretend at home. They brought her to the NDLEA (National Drug Law Enforcement Agency) office which is in charge of curbing individuals with drugs and alcoholic drinks while counselling them with a series of treatments through the help of a therapist.
When the daughter was questioned on why she started such a habit, she said her parents caused it because they were always giving her all she ever wanted without asking about her well-being or how she was coping in school and a lot of time, she is unhappy seeing her parents fighting in the house and when she needed attention and there was no one there, she would go out where she was influenced and introduced to the world of drugs and smoking hard substances. She said there was no love in her family and no one cared.
It took a lot of intervention for the girl to be normal and the family got back together and were living happily again.
Whenever I hear cases of such, I am glad of the kind of family I am in and where I came from. There has not been a time I ever cried or regretted being born into my family because they are a wonderful family whom we have united together in love and never for once turned our backs on each other.
I grew up in a family where they do not believe in beating a woman or apportioning a task for a specific gender with the assertion that the females should be doing this while the males are to be playing around and resting. Everyone in the home has their responsibilities which they must perform whether you are a boy or girl, young or old, no one was left out of the equation and love was shared equally among us.
I never experienced a time when my father raised his hand to beat my mother as peace reigned in the home. Misunderstandings will surely occur between husbands and wives but I learnt something from my mother to always keep quiet and be patient when talking to my Dad.
Wherever I go and am lucky to see some families where all they know is to fight all the time, not paying attention to their kids as they wander around the street like sheep without its shepherd, I am always proud of my family and the love we have made to grow among us.
This is something my late Grandmother had always wanted. Coming from an amazing home would be an understatement for me because I have been surrounded by loving people who make up my family and I feel fulfilled and joyful to have such a great relationship that has shaped my life since birth.
Those who are born into a dysfunctional family, when they see a family like mine or other people who have chosen to stay happy and peaceful with themselves would wish to have such a wonderful family. Just like an author of a book titled "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck" said, it is not one's fault to be in a situation but it becomes your responsibility to choose which to go for. Same with a dysfunctional family, it isn't your fault to be part of such a family but it becomes your responsibility to do what is right, choosing whether to make a change for good or leave it like that.
Every time, I am filled with awe and appreciative of the fact that I came from a good family who chose love, peace and unity over hatred, resentment and sadness and this is something that has kept us moving forward and succeeding in our endeavours while also celebrating everyone's achievements. In my family, we have a standard we have stood on and that is when it goes well for one person, it works well for the other and it doesn't mean everyone shouldn't work extra hard to give themselves the best life ever. There is no form of envy or mistrust among us.
It is only in a family that doesn't seek peace among themselves that would create hatred, jealousy and fighting and will always look for the downfall of the other person. Family is great and when you have one that shows unconditional love to you, cherish and celebrate them all the time.
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Children starts to learn first from the family specially parents. The relationship of parents create direct impact on children's mind. Parents need to be cautious for it. Through your details I feel you are from a good family I believe the same thing will be reflected in the future generations also.
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Yes. I would want this love to be spread in my own family too. Thank you, friend.
I am moved by how your family has cultivated an environment of equality, respect, and unconditional love. It's a testament to the strength and resilience that comes from a united family. Stories like yours encourage us to cherish and nurture our own family bonds, aiming to create similar positive environments for future generations.
Your participation in the May Inleo Monthly Initiative adds such a valuable perspective on the theme of family love. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Thank you, Madilyn. We all sure wants a family where love speaks louder and unity is one thing that is so paramount in it. May God continue to give us that happy home we deserve.
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Thank you very much beautiful @princessbusayo
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I feel for the girl, but I am mostly thankful that she was rescued in time and that her family found love again.
And I admire what you and your family have, and that you're product of it, Princess.
Thank you, Jay 😊❤️
That's what most kids wish for, a loving family, where there's only love and peace, where misunderstandings can be solve easily because they communicate. Not all kids can have this kind of family. But I'm also lucky that I never experienced such, my parents fights but not to the point that someone will be harm.
Yes. Kids wants a family that shows love and care all the time and they feel bad when those are missing in the family. Thank God for the kind of family we are in. Thanks for reading my post and leaving a beautiful comment ❤️
Thanks god the girl was rescued and she got her family's love. I was very tens for herm very good post. I was totally flow with this post. Thanks for sharing.
Yea, she was safe and the family came back together.
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This story has a lot of lessons to learn from. Most parents has driven their children into what they don't know, I am glad the girl was able to come back to normal and her family was able to live right again.
Permit me to say, I admire what you and your family shared and that's how every family should live.
Yes, parents should be careful what they do around their children and make sure to do what is best. Thank you dear for your compliment.
Showering kids with material love only can be detrimental as you observed here. Both parents and child are to be held responsible for her actions.
You are right too. Both are responsible for whatever actions they take and seeing how they had experience the repercussions made them learn their lessons and turn for a change.
A good family is truly a blessing, it's sad to see so many dysfunctional families, I believe parents should always create time for their children as quality time is very important in the family.
Popped in from Dreemport, Hey Dreemer, wishing you a very great week and blessings!
I remain an awesome #dreemerforlife.
The first stage of learning for every child starts from the family and if the parents miss to lay a good foundation for the child, it will have a drastic effect.
Everyone wishes to have such a beautiful family as yours. God keep you all.
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The early development of any child starts from their home. The home is the smallest unit of society but it plays a huge role in the major effect afterwards. Your family is blessed❤️
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Yes, you are right. The home plays the huge role and part in a child's life. Thank you, deraaa.
So glad to hear of your wonderful family. Our family was similar though maybe not as calm as yours. Having a boy when they were young meant both mom and dad were very worried about me getting spoilt. So though I got a lot of goodies within the limits of their means, I also got a lot of discipline when I acted rude or disobeyed or did something wrong. And even though there were tiffs at home both their focus was always me and my younger sibling. I always pray that kids today also get the same love and devotion that we got from our parents. When i was young I thought it was normal, and only later found out that not all kids are as lucky as I was.
But yes, even if we are unlucky we can be the change we want to see. In earlier times we did not have exposure and only learnt what we saw. But today with the amount of exposure and knowledge one has it is criminal for parents to not create as loving of a home as they can for their children.
Cheers from a fellow #dreemerforlife
Yes, love and discipline should be what kids gets from parents. We are lucky during ours and I believe we can extend such love and discipline to the younger generations. I wish every family not experiencing such would come together to practice love and unity would be found in their homes. Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me. Glad to read that from you, sincerely 🙏 👍
Learning starts from home. Most of the habits some children display is what they learned from their homes and surroundings.
I am glad you came from a family filled with love and unity, many people don't have that but then you I agree with you that coming from dysfunctional family shouldn't define us because if we don't strive to break the chain, history keeps repeating itself all over again.
Thank you for sharing.
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Yes, coming from a dysfunctional homes shouldn't be an excuse not to live the best life. It's all about decisions and wanting to break the chain by all means. Thank you. 😊
Wow wow wow... Well that story seems to be the most cases of rice he's. I'm actually surprised that the girl was later back to normal because its rare on cases like that.
Your parents did well by sharing equal responsibilities for everyone taking gender aside👏🏻💯
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Yes. The parents should be lucky that the counselling worked for them all and are back to living normal lives as family.
It was an interesting one princess❤💯
I don't know whether to blame the parents of the girl alone. Well, the main blame is on the parents and the child also could have avoided the luring hand of the habit. It's temptation and no matter what , temptations are avoidable.
This is good ✌️
Yes, temptations are avoidable if one is determined to. Thank you, Kingsley 😊