Disconnect from the emotions of words and instead connect with the actions of people, and it will become far clearer what is a real threat, and what is not.
Sometimes, we just focused on the words forgetting the type of person who told us those words.
The reason why my husband laugh at me everytime I told him "I don't like you" because he's only focusing on me rather than the words I throw. He believed that I was joking and he knows me very well. @tarazkp