Human being is the creature that takes hardest of the efforts and longest of the time for learning to live life and to reach the level of maturity. How quick all the other animals learn the survival skills. In fact, many of them are born learnt. No body is required to guide them what they have to feed and how. Nevertheless, the case of human being is not the same.
A child comes in this world as a weak being. He cannot feed himself unless the caretaker provides him. The feeble being doesn’t know how to clean himself, the caretaker performs the job. Children are totally dependent on their parents for fulfilling their personal, social and emotional needs.
Life goes on. The strong hands, that supported the child to move and take his first steps, become weak. The strong back, that lifted heavy loads to meet the needs of the kids bends down and no longer remains capable of being straight even for itself.
Nonetheless, the child that was once weak turns into a strong and robust individual. This is the time when responsibilities are supposed to be shifted. The parents deserve to be taken care in their old age as they cared for their kids during the time of their weakness.
It is heart breaking to witness the incidents of children treating their parents as a burden when they turn old. They abandon their parents and negate their responsibility towards them thinking that they have the right to live their lives freely as individuals.
During their youthful years, people start considering their parents a reason of discomfort who put pressure on them for fulfilling their needs. People want to enjoy their lives without being pressurised by the responsibility of their parents.
The point to consider here is that if our parents did not spend their youthful years to fulfil our needs. Did the parents not sacrifice their dreams and desires to give us a better life? Did they not face the discomfort in order to bring comfort to our lives. Now when the life flips and the positions are altered, isn’t it the responsibility of children to pay them back with same level of love and care?
I think it is quite ungrateful on the part of the children to take the efforts put by their parents as for granted. Parents also had the choice to not care of their kids when they were young. If they chose to give the best to their kids sacrificing their own wishes, it is responsibility of children to be grateful to them via their words and actions.
Nonetheless, despite considering it the responsibility of children to take care of their parents in their old age, I don’t consider the mind-set of bringing up kids for our own future as a healthy mentality.
Having this kind of mentality, parents build too many expectations, some of which might even be irrational. Consequently, children are put under unnecessary pressure of fulfilling all the demands of their parents. The situation becomes frustrating for children and disappointing for the parents.
Another problem with this kind of mentality is that parents do not keep anything save for themselves, instead spend everything on their kids. When the table is turned with time, parents become totally dependent on their children. In such a situation if children refuse to take care of their parents, the parents feel helpless.
In short, children should not consider their old parents as a burden on them. Instead they should be grateful to them and treat them with kindness and love. On the other hand, parents should not bring up their kids with a desire of getting the support back. Instead, they should be saving something for their own future and also always be striving for independence .
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I see it that way too. That is the generational contract we have with each other.
Yet presently, with around 1.3 children per woman (where I live), this contract will not be fulfilled. All modern societies are moving below self-sustainability in terms of birth rates. This decline was already foreseeable when the contraceptive pill was introduced; and even before that, birth rates were falling in affluent societies.
Families are though the cornerstone of societies. Once families are in minority, and you have singles or non parents in a majority, society in general starts to degenerate.
Yes, parents are well advised to save money for their old age, but even that is not safe. Your funds could become vulnerable and even victim to economical crisis, as history gives evidence of. When a financial crisis hits hard, all funds may go to ashes.
Governments could, if they wanted, set on programs which promote and support family building long term, beyond any legislation period but with time scales around fifty and hundred years. Like they did in Hungary, for example (of which I am not saying those are long term, since every election can turn things around). Our government did not push it, though it also did not abandon benefits for families.
We promote divorce, enmity between male and female, between parents and children, not because it is intended on purpose, but because of the shift of focus and traditional values being too less respected in general. And the new age and "self actualization" became a thing. A lot of it is utter bollocks.
It may turn, though. I think the atmosphere shifts and the value of traditional family planing, marriage and other Christian related issues may have a comeback. I like to be optimistic for future generations, even though we ourselves as babyboomers will face the backfire of what we have missed to do on our own (myself included).
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Currently I am busy in reading a contest enteries. Therefore do not have enough time to respond to your comment. Actually, I never want to respond your comments with superficial thoughts.
I will be back to it when I have more time to be thoughtful so that we can have more insightful conversation.
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I am looking forward to have you coming back at me, once you find the time for a conversation on the level you want to lead.
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HaHa! :D - I find that to be true, as well. I appreciate it being challenged. If not in that very moment, then later on.
It's so true that children often take their parents' efforts for granted, without realizing the sacrifices they made for their well-being.
It's heartbreaking to see elderly parents abandoned or treated as a burden by their children.
We must recognize the value of intergenerational care and support, and prioritize gratitude and reciprocity in our relationships.
At the same time, parents should strive for independence and save for their own future, rather than relying solely on their children for support. Let's work towards building a culture of love, respect, and mutual support across generations.
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It is indeed wise of every child to take care of his or her parents when they come of age.
True. Children should demonstrate gratitude by taking care of their parents.
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Hmm I like that part, parent took care of their children when the they were weak as baby so also the child is expected the take care of the parent when they also grow old and weak.
Truth be told our parent tried for us.
Isn't that the reality of life? The principle of reciprocity works here, doesn't it?
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Children should take care of their parents when they are old and weak and can not do things for themselves just like they use to when they are young.
True. Children should understand that it is their responsibility to take care of their parents. Whom are the parents supposed to turn to during their age of dependence if not their children....!
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