Many of you readers are no doubt Parents or Aspiring to be Parents Someday, if so, do not be hesitant to take that step because there are a lot of importance which Parents have in the society.
Parents are the Backbone of our Future Leaders, they aid life to them and help them to be able to get the essential life training that they need before any further training or acquisition is added to their growth. Parents play an irreplaceable role in the lives of their children. This relationship has a profound impact on a child's mental, physical, social and emotional development as well as their overall well-being and happiness. Parents help us in every step of our life. Also, Parents help in order to protect their children from harm, to provide your child with food, clothing and a place to live, to financially support your child, to provide safety, supervision and control.
The importance of Parents are lengthy and being a Parent is so wonderful as you would contribute a lot to the society in general and to the life of that Future leader under your Precious care.
As children grow up and develop their own identities, they may develop values or beliefs that conflict with those of their parents, leading to disagreements and tension. Old conflicts or traumas that were never fully resolved can resurface later in life and cause tension between parents and adult children. And when this happens Parents do not really think they have really parented well there and that is why mostly Many teenagers in our World today do not really appreciate the efforts of parents in helping the future leaders and nurturing them, below are some of the quotes from notable men regarding those who do not appreciate Parents:
Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands. - Anne Frank
Sometimes the poorest man leaves his children the richest inheritance. - Ruth E. Renkel
I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father's protection. - Sigmund Freud
The best inheritance a parent can give to their children is a few minutes of their time each day. - M. Grundler
A child who is allowed to be disrespectful to his parents will not have true respect for anyone. - Billy Graham.
The comments made above really show or prove that not appreciating the efforts made by Parents is not the best option for teenagers. But when Parents face this problem of having a child who disrespects them and do not appreciate their efforts, what do they do?
**What can Parents do if they are not Appreciated?
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- Point out Ungratefulness
When you hear your child say or do something that shows an ungrateful attitude, point it out. Be specific without being insulting. For instance, avoid saying something like, “Stop being a brat.” Instead, say something like, “Complaining about not getting more presents is ungrateful. Your friends and family were kind enough to buy you a gift when they didn’t have to buy you anything.”
Consistently pointing out incidents that portray an ungrateful attitude will help your child see what behavior constitutes entitlement. Just make sure your comments are aimed at raising awareness, not shaming your child.
- Teach Empathy
Kids need help in understanding how their behavior affects other people. You can do that by teaching your child empathy.1 Talk to them about how their words or behaviors impact others. Say things like, "When you say you never get to do anything fun, it hurts my feelings. I try to make sure we do plenty of fun things together, like go to the park or play games."
Parents, You also can use situations in books and movies to get them to consider how others might be feeling. For instance, when you are reading books or watching TV together, pause and ask how certain characters might feel. Ask questions like, "When that boy said those mean things, how do you think his brother felt?" Help your child identify and label feeling words.
- Delay Gratification
Showering your child with endless material items and countless indulgences will spoil her. Kids cannot be grateful for what they have unless they’re given an opportunity to delay gratification.
For instance, it is OK to say no when your kids ask for a new toy or an expensive gadget. Instead, tell them they need to wait until their birthday. Or, you could teach them how to save up their allowance for something they want.
Another way to delay gratification is to link privileges, like screen time and playdates, to good behavior. However, never confuse a bribe with a reward. Bribing your child will only fuel an ungrateful attitude. Saying, "Here's a balloon, now be good," is a bribe. A reward, on the other hand, is about saying, "You were really well behaved today. I am really proud of you. You earned a balloon."
- Foster Gratitude
There are many steps you can take to foster gratitude in children. One of the most important steps is to be a good role model of a grateful attitude.3 Talk regularly about all the things you have to be grateful for each day.
Express gratitude for things that can easily be taken for granted, like spending time together, seeing a beautiful sunset, or finding a great parking spot.
Also, strive to establish family habits that foster gratitude. Create a gratitude jar where everyone writes down one thing they're grateful for every day. Then, on a specific date, like New Year's, read through all the slips of paper.
- Focus on Helping Others
Make kindness a family habit. Take your children with you when you help an elderly neighbor or give them an opportunity to help you make a meal for someone who needs a helping hand
Get your child involved in volunteer work too. Teach your kids that they are never too young to help other people. Helping others in need will decrease your child's self-centered outlook. It also will help foster compassion, which decreases the likelihood that your child will be ungrateful.
How has Technology affected Parenting in recent times?
Children do love Video games, and when being deprived of their rights to play those games they really become upset with their parents causing great havoc within the family, but then what can Parents do in order not to allow this havoc from happening?
Parents can set Screen time limit: This involves having a standard time limit which the children would have to always bear in mind when making use of their digital assets. When my parents introduced that method to us the children, we didn't love it, but as time went by we came to appreciate and understand why they did it and the benefit it has for us the children.
Online Safety: Parents can venture in customising the electronic devices which they hand to their children in order for their children not to go beyond what they are required to search for, watch and download on the Web.
Digital Parenting tools: They can also make some Ai do some work for them in Helping their children when it comes to electronic devices and games by installing it on the device and coding it based on what they want it to help them do an by so doing the Children would have an effective upgrowth.
Encourage Learning and Creativity: Use digital resources to encourage learning, creativity, and skill development. Look for educational apps, games, and websites that align with your child's interests.
Establish Tech-Free Zones and Times: Designate certain areas of the home, such as the dining room or bedrooms, as tech-free zones. Also, establish tech-free times, such as during meals or before bedtime.
Stay Informed and Updated: Keep yourself informed about the latest trends in technology and social media. Stay updated on the apps and platforms your child is using.
All these are Factors that you need to bear in mind when becoming a Parent and when you do, you will see yourself suceed as an excellent parent who truly loves,cares and cherishes the Children.
In conclusion, I also want to thank all the parents nationwide for their efforts to help these little leaders of tomorrow to grow up knowing all the good qualities they have to know, Thank you so Much Parents. You all do make us children Proud.
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