The verbal IQ of course was very low (102)
Isn't that above verage, if it's an IQ-based score? cuz 100 = average. Hardly 'very low' lol
Honestly your experience sounds like my experience with hairdressers. My whole life I'd go to one, then never return after a dissatisfying result. Round and around i'd go trying to find the one 'local' i'd return to. Never did because they just couldn't get that all I wanted was the same thing I have now (a messy mop) just a bit shorter.
So eventually I stopped going entirely and I've been cutting my own hair for, what, 8 years + now? I think there's some kind of metaphor in there somewhere.
My sister has been searching for her diagnosis in England for about that much time, 8 years or so. She's been frequently misdiagnosed, files randomly lost by doctors, referred to this person, then that person, then circulated round to the first person, lost files again, year after year after year.
First it was Bipolar, then OCD, then ADHD, Then a cocktail of the lot, then borderline personality disorder, back to the other ones, the latest is autism, which I'm not convinced about as she went private and I think they just affirmed a self-assessed claim that she think she's autistic, but doesn't seem to match in my opinion.
What do I know, you say? Well, apparently more than the fckin 'doctors'!
I could talk for hours about this stuff given her experiences and my mum's who also has PTSD among other things. I'm actually the only 'normal' one in the family. Not that I don't have my own private issues I never let out, but I at least function in society in a way that most people consider me normal, albeit antisocial.
Here in China is even worse. They don't even believe in things like mental illness. Hell, they barely understand physical issues. My wife's eczema specialist demonstrated little more than 'I don't actually know what exzema is but I need this job'.
God, this world. I'll stick to Google and Reddit lol.
Edit: I suppose to defend the docs, like you say here, it is pretty damn hard to objectively diagnose these things without reasonable doubt, when there's so much overlap, bias, updated definitions, and so forth. For me, I know there's some stuff going on with me from a life brought up in a completely broken family, but as long as I can function, I'll deal with it myself, it's just too nuanced and complicated that I know no answer will satisfy me, whether they affirm or deny one way or the other.
Nono, I just meant very low compared to my non verbal scores. But it is indeed average in general.
Heeey same with hairdressers!! I think the last time I went to cut my hair too was when I went to a salon to color my hair so I had them trim it at the same time. For most part it's just me cutting my hair since the unever parts aren't noticeable anyway haha.
I can understand that, there's not much foreigners in China so maybe they stick to the common styles they know?
For a country like England, I thought they would have better ways to diagnose mental illnesses compared to my country so that sucks.. I learned that autistic and people with ADHD are often diagnosed with personality disorders. If there were other tests like a brain scan that could diagnose it it would have been better haha.
It’s good to know you are ‘normal’ as having this “disorder” is so hard to cope with in today’s society. I do find it as a strength in some ways but overall it’s not easy.
England... I dunno, my experience is that it's far, far worse than much poorer countries. People are pulling their own teeth out because they either can't afford it, or there's literally no dentists for 100km and 80% aren't taking new customers anymore. You can wait 12 months+ for serious issues, and unknown numbers have died waiting, for service.
So what's the point in having good quality care when it's not available to even use? Needless to say, mental health is bottom of the barrel in terms of priority.
People have accused (?) me of having depression over the years, and I don't hide the fact that I'm monstrously insecure, but I don't like to box that into a disorder as I could probably fix it myself if I wanted lol.
Being surrounded by basically all friends and family with everything from bipolar and PTSD, to schizophrenia and manic psychotic episodes, it certainly doesn't *feel *'normal'! But regarding strengths, I do think it makes for far more interesting - and caring - people.