@agmoore 😊 , my dearest!
So, as a mum and grandmother you see no harm in complimenting the child's work itself, right? I see and respect your point. Plus, this explains your observation very well.
As the child ages, of course, creativity can be lauded in more realistic terms.
Thank you ;) <3
I do think Mueller & Dweck's study is fascinating.
Excellent question about the children's concern towards disappointing themselves or the researchers! In PART II of that very study, the students were asked by the researchers to write a letter to students from a different school. They were asked to narrate their experience regarding the activity. Several children from the "clever group" lied and/or inflated their scores.
The researchers said that :
all it took to shake these children's confidence, to make them so insecure and unhappy that they lied, was one sentence of praise.
My nephew is a naughty little one. My mother says he is just like me in "boy's version". My mother tells me that after being sent to the "naughty corner" for a few minutes and she said: "Abigail, you can go and play now!", I would reply: "Now I am staying here forever!" 😩
But J.P is well-mannered and likable, which helps his socialization skills very much.
As for Adrian, people just end up avoiding him. For the reasons you already know. But, you will be pleased to know he's got 2 cats for his birthday last July! :D
Thank you my dear, for this incredibly thorough feedback, and for pointing out aspects that add to my understanding towards the upbringing of children.
The temperature is dropping here and I am very much looking forward to autumn. Much love to you from cloudy Portugal <3 :*
Oh, yes, dear Abigail, you understand me perfectly 🌟. The very young child's work, endorsed, supported, encouraged. I would not presume to understand what children see, what they imagine from their naive perspective--would not want to curb an exploring intellect. People sometimes spend a lifetime trying to get back the spontaneity in art that was stifled by 'education'. However, to falsely proclaim talent where none exists--that is foolish and even cruel.
I recognize your stubborn self in me. I would not sit down to dinner once because my mother wanted my brother to sit at the head of the table. Many instances of rebellion, which I think overall has served me well :)
I'm worried about those cats! If he's that thoughtless and she's that obliging...hope the cats are OK.
I don't think I could expand your understanding, but thank you for being courteous in saying that. Your pieces stay with me and influence the way I view many situations.
Another great piece.
Friday and I'm ready for a quiet weekend...unseasonably warm and sunny today.
Enjoy autumn 🍂--the season for reflection.
Regards and Affection,
Your friend, AG