My father failed marriage
In my place female children are of no value, My Father married a woman that brought him a female child so my father got angry with the woman and sent her packing with the child,
My mother failed marriage
My mother married a friend from secondary, but before they got married she had two male children for the man and they got married, but the tribe had a rule which was that a man from orobo Delta state must marry from his tribe, My mother was from
tse' kiri but she can speak there dialent and knows there culture she can even fry garri out of cassava but she was denied from staying in the marriage,
She overheard the mother of the child telling him to marry another wife and this made my mother leave the house cause she made vow that she can't marry a man who has married before and she can't be married with a mate sharing her husband with her so she left the marriage and went back to her parents house,
This made our family to be jubilating and welcome her home believing that she would give my Father a male child as she has done for her ex husband,
My father childhood
my father was breast fed by his grandmother because his mother died in the sea when they went for fishing the child was safe but the mother died, the child of my father's grandmother died when my grandmother was taking care of my father, and my grandmother didn't feel bad when he grew a little older and doesn't depend on breast milk he was sent to his surviving parent, soon my mother was born,
And they were from the same tribe
Back to adulthood
In adulthood My Father and mother are in their parents house back from their failed marriage, My Father left his marriage because of a male child and my mother had the solution cause she has already brought forth a male child,
THAT'S WHEN THE DRAMA STARTED
My father took my mother marry my mother to Lagos Nigeria they both start living together with him and she bore her first child for him,
The first child my mother gave to my father was a child a girl a female child this made my mother my father to be really mad at my mother, but he really didn't wanted to show his anger 🤬 and called it a mistake the child was named
Gloria ajulisa'n : meaning let the house be good,
he named the child such because he was angry
My father tried again, so that my mother would give him a male child but instead, she gave him another female child called Augustina, at this my Father because furious and ran away my grandfather named her
oritse'dowanye : God bless those that do good,
With just two children my father started running away from the house and my mother had started begging for money and food from neighbors and my aunt's
But he was convinced by some set of friends to come back and when he came back my mother gave birth to me he did not just run away but he got another wife,
Janet Amaboritsedueye :do not fight with GOD,
was the name given to me by my mother,
The struggle was so hard on my single mom with three children and the neighbor that was always borrowing her money had moved from the neighborhood
My mother had to drop me at my grandma's house to be working and be feeding me, My mother was ready to forgive my father and the fine was just 6 Yards of wrapper, but my Father said he can never cloth my mother so my mother dropped my elder sister with my stepmom so that my father would be training them,
I stayed with my grandmother and my cousins and when I came of age to go to school I usually go with my cousins and they didn't like school and so they go late and instead of taking punishment they would hide with me, and so my mother sent me to leave with my father and my stepmother,
When I got there my sister gave me all the gist of how my father had been beating the woman cause her first fruit for him was a female child, he also rubbed her pepper all over her body and this made the woman run away,
The woman gave birth to a male child for my father cause she ran away pregnant, but the child died without our knowledged cause we were little children,
When the woman got pregnant again she didn't tell my dad on time cause she didn't know what was killing the child
My father is a no nonsense person 😤 he believes in beating anyone he could and that is how he believes he gets what he wants, during my stay with my father, my work shared to me was that I should fetch water but I hid under the staircase to continue my sleep but when I heard my father's voice I was scared I ran to the kitchen were my sister was and an old lady sent me to take a pot of Stew inside, but unfortunately the boiling pot of fried stew poured on me,
The last time I saw my mother was when I had my fifth child and after that she died,
But mother died early because of she single handedly trained us alone,
My mother worked like a man for me
She me like a special child
I had a very big belly button
And she fed me with food costly and expensive, she did every work a man could do she sold fuel wood, we neated mat FROM bamboo 🎍 she was also a cook and worked in a restaurant and during the weekend we go with her to fetch fire wood and then sell it I can't talk about my mother without talking about my grandma she always supported my mother in times of encouragment.
She didn't throw me away even though I caused her the pain of broken marriage
My existence made my father run away
But she chose me over her husband
What pains me was that she didn't enjoy the fruit of her hard labour, this can only be done by a mother,
When I had my first child my mother took care of me when I had my first child she accommodated me, my mother also sponsored the dedication of my daughter, and then I had to go and find my husband as advised by my mother,
My mother's life taught me a great lesson thanks to God for her existence
I love you mummy
I am a woman and I have seven girls one boy today I have experience as a mother anyone any girl who want to be a mother as to go to his school call ers School of patience full of waiting school of love school of tolerance from my daughter the senior one to the last my first daughter 24 years now the second one 21 years now the third one 18 years the 5th one the 4th one 13 years the 5th one thing is the system it's 8 years the last one one year plus my son 16 years so you see I am a mother I have the experience maybe next time I'll tell you what my mom has make me to tolerate in my marriage not because I don't have conflict in my house because of Mom I was able to enjoy it in all I love it in all I practice love not because it's what I want but because of my children I want them to see the best parts of marriage, Anino is a baby tomorrow she will pregnant and be and have our own baby and give birth to us many she wants from the eldest to the youngest I believe there will be a mothers,
my mother I love you so much who meets her the right time thank you ladies of hive for reading my story
In all happy mothers day to all the mothers in the world
awww lovely, happy mother's Day Grandma, from this side to the other side
!LADY
This is indeed epic happy mother's Day
You know most people have different opinions on how and why they do things for reasons best know to them
Love is not something just given it is something earned let people earn your love and I have seen your mother earned it
Your story and life is an adventure and one day you would look back and wonder if it was you that went through it
Wow I so much love your story
This is is really a great mother hood story . I'm really happy for you mama
Mothers are rear gifts I'm happy you're one of them
Indeed motherhood is really great we love you and how you're doing it effortlessly
This is such an amazing story thank you for your support to me personally as mother
Your Mother certainly had faith in you, far more than your father. Her life spent enduring, persevering and sacrifice for your welfare. She would be proud of you and your children.
That's a tough life being with a husband like that. I pray more men who are to be husbands and fathers become closer to God before and upon marriage so they can lead the family well instead of bring it to ruin. 🙏
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