On the 11th of June, 2016, she gave up the ghost and it was as if the world ended for me that very day. I was close to her. I even placed a phone on her ear while a pastor was praying and interceding on her behalf. With one eye, I was checking her breathing level and everything was going fine, though with oxygen placed on her.
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With one mind, I kept telling God, "I don't want to lose this woman." But it seemed God had a better plan for her and us because, I later realized why she was taken from us after so many years. Even though the reason was good, I still never wished for her to die. There were plans I had for this woman but she left when I was just taking a step into becoming a woman.
I also remembered how my immediate younger sister was pestering me with calls to update her every hour because, at that time, she was writing her 200 level second semester examinations at Uniben (University of Benin). After the third call from her, mom had died and I tried my best to keep it away from her, at least till she finished her exams that very day. After much persuasion from her, I let loose the words "Mommy is dead". She broke down into tears immediately and I regretted breaking the news to a student who was about to go into the examination hall. My big sis called and blamed me, but I explained to her that I didn't want to tell her, she forced me.
It was God who helped her that day because I knew how hard it was for her to concentrate on her papers while thinking of the news I had brought to her. She passed the course according to her. It was so hard for her. When I saw my mom's body being moved to a different location, wrapped with a white cloth all over her, I couldn't say anything but watch her as they pushed her away from the hospital. The only thing I kept hearing was "Sorry, dear. Take heart" Ahh. I never imagined myself being in that position of hearing those heartbreaking words. I didn't think that I would lose my mom at such an early age. She was just 49 years old. So painful.
There is nothing like a mother figure in one's life. I was sitting in church today as the women were celebrating Mother's Day. The woman who was anchoring the event kept praising mothers and encouraging those who still have mothers to take care of them. She broke into tears while saying that and I knew she had no mother, I didn't know when tears rolled down from my eyes too. This is one reason I don't like to be in such gatherings because I wouldn't be able to control myself or bring myself to order when they mention the word "mother" especially when they are urging those whose mothers are still alive to take care of them.
At that point, I wished my mom was still alive. I wished she could be around so I could take care of her. Sometimes, I wished that there was a possible way where there would be a location or a building meant for the dead where the living could visit their dead loved ones, but the dead wouldn't have access to visit the living. Do you know how many times a week I would be visiting my mom? If you have a mother, do take care of her really and let her know how much you adore her.
Many promises were made after my mom's death of how they would do more than what she didn't do for us. Those were only mere words that one didn't fulfil today and it made me believe that truly, "I will do more than your mother" cannot be like one's mother. A mother is extraordinary.
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I watched a movie some days ago and it made me believe that there is nothing greater than the love a mother has for her child. No god can be as powerful as a mother's love to her child(ren). I could see how hard the mother fought for her child, even when she was weak, she regained strength when she saw her daughter being maltreated by a devil who came in the form of a being, using black magic on girls and influencing them in the wicked way.
How could I forget my mother's sacrifices to her children? How she struggled with different hard jobs like being an estate agent, taking bricklaying work, and being a trader and businesswoman who would go around to supply bread and other items to people and she never stopped searching for more jobs to take care of us. She was such a strong woman that I took so many lessons from her. Being an independent lady today and one who doesn't depend on any man, my mother taught me this. She never for once depended on my father or waited until he came back before we would eat. She was always available and would cook meals whether Dad gave her money or not.
I saw how patient she was with my Dad despite how she kept getting frustrated by his attitude in the house. Not that he used to beat her because my father never raised his hands on her, but he was a drunkard. I could imagine how she endured so many insults from outside all because of Dad and how she stayed and never for once thought of leaving him or her children. When death took her, my dad realized what left him — a supportive and patient partner.
I will always remember my mom and her sacrifice towards her children. Next month will make it 8 years since she left this world to rest in the bosom of the Lord and I will keep missing her always.
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This is so emotional. 🥺 A mother's love is immeasurable, honestly.
There are many things a mother can do for you that no other person can. The sacrifices they make for their children...
I enjoyed reading through this and it's bringing back memories. 🥺
Yes. Mothers are great and no one can do just how they would do it. Thank you so much for coming around.
You're welcome.
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I don’t even know when I became emotional
Your mom was truly an amazing woman and wherever she is I know she’s proud of you and your sisters
I won’t be surprised if she even had a hand in your sister passing the course because as at that point, she become your guardian angel.
I don’t want to say I’m sorry for your loss because I know you’re tired of hearing it but I’ll just say she’s somewhere in the sky watching over you and your sisters so continue to make her proud
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Yea yea, I know she would be proud from Heaven. You are right, when a parent leaves, they become our guardian angels watching over us.
Thank you, Abenad. I have moved on with life and I am grateful for great memories of her with us.
Mothers are angels on earth,commiting their lives for their children, their sacrifices cannot be compared to anything. The loss of a mother is a painful one, it's good you have a fond memory of her to keep you going.
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Yes. I am glad for those beautiful memories of her. Thank you.