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Personally, i never resonated much with the concept or envisioned myself living that conventional life path - seeing it really merely as a social/cultural/institutional construct. And an outdated one, yeah - at least for a couple that is conscious, confident in themselves & their connection, and sees through the full implications of subscribing to this traditional contractual (kinda such a heartless, inhumane) approach to defining a relationship through a business agreement.
Much more saw the merit in the takes like, “nothing says ‘I love you from the bottom of my heart’ like getting the government involved with legal contracts and obligations from which you cannot escape without immense complications.” lol.
the conditioning/programming runs DEEP though. from the whole religious frameworks of it to Hollywood’s idealized “happily ever after” version, it’s an IDEA that’s sunk so far into many’s conceptions of reality… and in some ways has many living in a world of fiction, in relationship with their mental constructs of what a wife/husband “should” be rather than just a simple, direct heart-to-heart, soul-to-soul relationship with the HUMAN BEING themself.
Of course, this may be an amplified articulation to prove a point - obviously not a one-size-fits-all generalization - and if it works for some people, good for them.